When a spouse loves another they eagerly desrire to work through problems. However there are those that marry & divorce at the drop of a hat.

(04-02-2011 07:03 AM)Guest Wrote:  My husband cheated on my 14 years ago. In fact, I was pregnant at the time. The Lord was the only thing that got me through it. In fact, I had no idea what was going on. On day, he came crying to me. I did forgive him, but I will never forget it. We have been married for 22 years now. I will pray that God will put guilt in her and force her to reveal what she has been doing.

(04-02-2011 12:43 PM)Guest Wrote:  When a spouse loves another they eagerly desrire to work through problems. However there are those that marry & divorce at the drop of a hat.

(04-02-2011 07:03 AM)Guest Wrote:  My husband cheated on my 14 years ago. In fact, I was pregnant at the time. The Lord was the only thing that got me through it. In fact, I had no idea what was going on. On day, he came crying to me. I did forgive him, but I will never forget it. We have been married for 22 years now. I will pray that God will put guilt in her and force her to reveal what she has been doing.

That's because few people nowadays know nothing about commitment anymore. Everything is disposable to them including people and marriage, but us real Christians should know better than that.

All I can say is that neither husband or wife should behave in this manner Biblically. The man she showed her intimacy towards was in a very happy state of mind!

Unlike the shock and pain I felt when witnessing them both smitten with each other directly in front of me!

BTW I did not consider this person to be a friend, merely an acquaintance.

(04-02-2011 07:53 AM)Guest Wrote:  My prayer for you and your wife is that this has all been a misunderstanding. Since he was a friend of the family, for all we know she could had been giving him some counseling or praying for him as a sisterly brotherly relationship.
Heavenly Father I pray the truth does come out and that this woman has not been unfaithful to her husband at all, but that she was just being kind to a friend of both her husband's and hers. May they be able to walk forward with forgiveness and trust in their heart. May they be as forgiving as you are to us even while we are still sinners.
Give them your peace and wisdom to work at their marriage without accusations, misunderstanding, infidelity, and allow you to work in them and their marriage. I ask this of you in Jesus name, amen.

Please continue to pray for the truth for me. My wife continues to deny adultery yet she looks very sheepish and ashamed. I have spoke mercifully and compassionately to her about it but still receive denials.

Recently she had a horrific nightmare that caused her great fear...The nightmare was that satan was sitting beside her on the edge of her bed and that he pinched her hard with his fingernails on her buttocks and laughed mockingly at her. I was not in bed at the time. She came to me terrified about this incident.

I have begged God to take away these strong feelings about my ? wife's unfaithfulness but they remain as strong as ever.
This has effected my trust in her. I have already caught her out in a lie that was concerning her masturbating herself and she lied so professionally and coolly about this when I knew without doubt that she had done this deed.

This is tearing my heart apart.

God bless you all

Ron

I would recommend going to a professional Christian counselor to discuss your concerns & work it through. You have serious issues of trust between you, whether real or imagined, it needs to be dealt with head on; as to intimacy, a professional Christian trained will help you sort out issues & concerns of said nature.
You need support, to feel good about being the head of your family. It sounds like things are chaotic. A helper for you in this will clarify concerns. Mulling over, worrying about solves nothing.
Good Bless you & your marriage.

(05-02-2011 11:48 AM)ronjs Wrote:  Please continue to pray for the truth for me. My wife continues to deny adultery yet she looks very sheepish and ashamed. I have spoke mercifully and compassionately to her about it but still receive denials.

Recently she had a horrific nightmare that caused her great fear...The nightmare was that satan was sitting beside her on the edge of her bed and that he pinched her hard with his fingernails on her buttocks and laughed mockingly at her. I was not in bed at the time. She came to me terrified about this incident.

I have begged God to take away these strong feelings about my ? wife's unfaithfulness but they remain as strong as ever.
This has effected my trust in her. I have already caught her out in a lie that was concerning her masturbating herself and she lied so professionally and coolly about this when I knew without doubt that she had done this deed.

This is tearing my heart apart.

God bless you all

Ron

Dear Ron.
I have been through this. Please seek a sound Christian counsellor to help. She needs to be able to speak out openly and confess anything that has come into her life that is evil. She is obviously being afflicted by the evil one. I pray for God to guide you as you seek wisdom and patience during this tough time. HE knows the truth. Let that be enough for you until HE reveals all. AMEN.

Thank you for your prayers and understanding.

Also thank you for imparting your wisdom.

May the Almighty Living God bless you richly

Ron

My wife refuses to speak to me about these problems and denies it all despite the fact I have evidence.

Please pray that God may open her ears, her eyes and her heart and bring her to deep convictions and bring about her repentance, otherwise I am afraid there is little hope for our marriage as this has effected me mentally, spiritually and physically.

May the Lord Jesus bless you all

Lord Jesus. Ronjs says he now has the evidence. Holy Father, he still wants to be part of this marriage - THANK YOU for that. Lord Jesus, there can be no reconciliation without TRUTH, so I pray, I pray that this wife will SPEAK OUT and CONFESS all her sins to her husband. Holy Spirit work with her and in her to get her to a stage that she can speak it out. Open her heart and bring her a holy discontent in this regard. Father GOD - please I implore YOU to work in this marriage so it may be an example to all who struggle that there is HOPE. AMEN.

For those who have prayed for me and update. I will be admitted to a Psychiatric Unit as a result of the depression I have developed from all this. My wife continues to deny everything. I am seriously contemplating separation from her. Thank you everyone for your prayers.

God bless you all!