Paula listen to all the good advice they are giving you here. If you have no church, or the church you are attending is way too big to fulfil your needs, then find a smaller church to go to. If there is no supportive group for divorce or separated women, then start one. It doesn't have to be in your home if you are afraid to bring strangers into your home. Just advertise like in the Pennysaver to meet you in a McDonald, Panera, or any other public places where you all can buy your own coffee, and you can sit and meet for the first time, also talk a little without being pushed out and get to know each other. Who says, the churches have to run everything in our life? Take charge of your own life and allow God to help you, not others run it for you. There are so many public places to meet in a little group and have a meeting without it costing a fortune, specially in Connecticut. But you have to do something, if the churches will not help you start one, do it yourself. I know the churches are not kind to divorce or separated woman, I've learned that in my life. I can imagine how God is frowning down on them for it. Believe me there are many out there in the same situation as your in need of supportive and fellowship group. Do something Paula, maybe God is calling you for this ministry, if only for a short time then when your time is up, someone else can continue it. But don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself that's the worse thing you can do. Nor allow Timothy to ruin your life this way. You are still young and time passes us by way too fast. Before you know you will be too old to start anew if you keep sitting home waiting for him to come back. There are many good men out there without garbage in their life. If you will only give yourself a chance and stop thinking of a man that doesn't deserve you, you can find someone better. Your children will soon be adults and will have their own life's to live. So please make your new one now while you are still young enough to do so. One day not far from now you will wake up one day, and you will be an old lady full of regrets for not doing something to start a new life while you were still young enough to do so, is that what you want out of live? We all make our own bed and some say, we have to lay on it. But I say, with God's help and uncondional love he can help us redo it better, if we only allow him to help us, so stop clinging to the old blankets and redo yours.
Lord give Paula the courage, strength, comfort, and wisdom to redo her life while she puts her trust in you all the way. Help her to lift herself, shake off all the old garbage and fears, and march on with you holding her hand all the way to a better life for herself. May she become a great blessing in her life to many that are also hurting the way she is. I pray in Jesus name, amen.