i am very very depressed and sad. i found out tim is mad at me and is looking for a wife. i was up all night crying. please pray for me i am very upset and lonely and want a better life in 2011. pray the hedge of thorns to remove all woman from tim's life and that he comes back to me to be his wife, lover and best friend. iand that 2011 is better for me. my daughter is going to her juinor prom tomorrow and has not called or e-mailed me i have not talked to her in one week and my son in two weeks. my life sucks. pray for me. i dont know what to do . i miss my family especially tim. pray that he won't find a girl to marry and come back tome. he is mad at me for calling him and depeneding on him. pray the hedge of thorns that karen is out of his life too.

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please pray for me deeply. i want to have tim move back in with me and be his lover wife and best friend again. we have so much in common. i love him still. paula

continue to pray for this situation 2011 sucks in my life now

continue to pray for me

Paula, let go & let God. There are many of us who have been burned/hurt/abused & dumped by a man whom we married. At some point, switch your energy to befriending other women who have been left behind, support them spiritually & they will support you.

It may not be God's Will that Tim left you or that your kids are distant from you at this time. But your healing will come when you let go & embrace those that love you willingly & with God's Passion.

There are good people out there & there are those decieved who do not walk in The Lord's Ways.

I think God Is Waiting For you to see this. Tim will have to account for his choices & his sins. We are forgiven however we are accountable as Christians.

Shift energy toward those that embrace you with open arms, other Christians who walk the walk. Letting go does not make what Tim did to you right Paula. It will allow a reconnect though of those that love you freely. Trust in Him.

(04-28-2011 01:39 AM)paula0331 Wrote:  i am very very depressed and sad. i found out tim is mad at me and is looking for a wife. i was up all night crying. please pray for me i am very upset and lonely and want a better life in 2011. pray the hedge of thorns to remove all woman from tim's life and that he comes back to me to be his wife, lover and best friend. iand that 2011 is better for me. my daughter is going to her juinor prom tomorrow and has not called or e-mailed me i have not talked to her in one week and my son in two weeks. my life sucks. pray for me. i dont know what to do . i miss my family especially tim. pray that he won't find a girl to marry and come back tome. he is mad at me for calling him and depeneding on him. pray the hedge of thorns that karen is out of his life too.

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please pray for me deeply. i want to have tim move back in with me and be his lover wife and best friend again. we have so much in common. i love him still. paula

Paula I'm continuing to pray for you, but do take the advise given above, it's what we all should do. I was where you are today many years ago. It was only when I let go and turned it all to God that my life turned around and God gave me everything the enemy had taken away from me back better than it ever was before. So do let go and to trust the Lord. Get into a Christian supportive group like I also did of woman that where I was, we prayed together for one another, we kept company so we won't be so lonely. We even helped each other find work when any lost their's. it is very valuable to have a group like that, if there is none near you, why don't you start one? That can be a very good ministry for you and God will bless you immensely. Remember it is better to give than to receive and this is a way of giving unto the Lord and to others.
Lord guide Paula to where you want her to be and help her to let go and give all her problems and life to you. Bless, protect, provide for her, give her wisdom, and comfort as your perfect will is done in her life and all that concerns her. In Jesus precious name I pray, amen.

Paula - I too pray for you but only you can change your life for the better - focus on the positives. There is good advice above.

I come in agreement in Jesus Christ's name with the person who posted this prayer request. Father God you know what he/she/they need, grace and mercy please Lord. Paula needs you Lord you are the only who can help in this situation.

Please end the torture some cycles of our lives for us Lord, please lift us in the eye of our enemies and heal us Lord. Also Lord please don't forget NJ who is constantly suffering greatly in her whole body and her right arm. Spare us all injuries of all sorts oh Lord. Spare us bodily harm, injuries, sicknesses of all sorts oh Lord. Your people are suffering ever so much oh God. The prisons, the rapes, the beatings, the unjust occupations and depletion of our resources and lands that you blessed us with. Savior savior what's happening under those tents when it rains, drug addicts, the rapes, the infections, the muds, the burns, the humidity, the abuse, the loneliness, constant humiliation, hunger pangs, feeling worthless, constantly feeling thrown away, the manipulation. Oh savior, it hurts, it burns. Yahweh, in the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth it hurts, it burns.

Savior by the faith that you put in me, the compassion that you have burning in your heart for humanity and the generosity that could only have originated from you. In the name the blood of Jesus Christ of Nazareth: let your people be free, healed, saved, consoled, fed, may lonely hearts fine love and mates, sheltered, wars, pointless senseless wars, please help victims of natural disasters start over and be healed from their lost, those who needs to be educated, deliverance from all pains, atrocities, problems, abuses, manipulations, jobless, homeless, financial problems, prisoners, divorces, broken hearts, emotional and mental instabilities, may all and all become good, perfect and joyous in the name of the blood of Jesus Christ-Amen.

i have been looking for support groups and woman but nothing here. only groups around me are for drug addictions and alocohol addictions. the domestic violence group i was in did not work out. all the woman in that group had their kids and husbands back with them and trying to cope and do better. i was the only one without husband or kids. no other groups around only therapy for myself which i dont have the money to go to and no church to talk to. the ones i did go to were too big and pastors did not councel church members did and all they did was pray with me no advice no nothing so i feel alone. my family and friends have abadon me. thanks paula

Paula, you are living your life as if you are still married to Timothy, & you are not. Yes, the two shall become one & unless you cheated on him he is still bound to you until death. This is why you are struggling. However, you are divorced, legally, biblically. Timothy, biblically, is not free to be dating or marrying anyone else, you know that. God however Gives us free will & we are judged accordingly.
Letting go does not mean denying that you were married, it is not saying Timothy should do whatever he wants (as he apparently is not mature or desirous of living by God's Rules). You can however, honor your now ex husband, by giving him his freedom, cutting ties as he desires.
This will allow you to flourish again. Timothy is a sinking ship Paula, in his life now, he is blind & you are following him. The good part is that he is asking you to step aside that you will be saved. People choose their destiny. He is clearly choosing his path. God Will Protect you if you allow Him to & He Will Guide you.

(04-28-2011 01:39 AM)paula0331 Wrote:  i am very very depressed and sad. i found out tim is mad at me and is looking for a wife. i was up all night crying. please pray for me i am very upset and lonely and want a better life in 2011. pray the hedge of thorns to remove all woman from tim's life and that he comes back to me to be his wife, lover and best friend. iand that 2011 is better for me. my daughter is going to her juinor prom tomorrow and has not called or e-mailed me i have not talked to her in one week and my son in two weeks. my life sucks. pray for me. i dont know what to do . i miss my family especially tim. pray that he won't find a girl to marry and come back tome. he is mad at me for calling him and depeneding on him. pray the hedge of thorns that karen is out of his life too.

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please pray for me deeply. i want to have tim move back in with me and be his lover wife and best friend again. we have so much in common. i love him still. paula

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Paula, something else that divorced women that are going through what you are, & there are MANY (unfortunately); life is not an easy road. There are many men (& women too actually) who do whatever they want, they fornicate, marry when they are not biblically free to do so. As you realize, there are men out there (& women) that want to walk through this life without the hard work, they take the easy road. When life gets difficult they jump ship. This is Not a role model. On the outside these folks may look like they have their act together, they may have many an admirer. Solid Christians however discern, they take their time in knowing others, they have their feet planted on solid ground.
Paula, I believe you have gotten caught up in the chaos that Timothy allowed in your lives as a married couple. He is living this life now without you, but you can choose to let go of this false/decieving path.
It is a rough road to put one's life back together after divorce. Once you acknowledge this, & that Timothy has no grounding in his life with or without you, then you can take the reigns back with GOD & go about in healing. There will always be darkness/false/deceit. This is encased in chaos, lies, sin. It may even be a pretty package, endless promises; however TRUTH stands the test of time. Walk with The Lord, let go, let GOD. Embrace TRUTH. It's not going to be easy Paula. However Timothy wants easy & that is not reality. God's Path is constant hard work, suffering, blessings, success that leads to eternal rewards.
You can shine still as a divorced woman, a leader with Christ as Your Head now. You will not disappear, or fail, not with The Lord. You can continue to speak & live TRUTH, for yourself, your daughter, other women. Timothy does not have to crush you Paula. God Is our All.
It's ok to grieve, to be sad, to hurt. Once you shift your energy to releasing that which is not real (Timothy want to play, he does not want to live the commit he made with you before God) anymore, your life will begin to reshape & thrive. Beleive in HIM, in yourself that God Loves you Paula. Embrace that. Be a leader, in & with Christ Jesus.

(04-28-2011 01:39 AM)paula0331 Wrote:  i am very very depressed and sad. i found out tim is mad at me and is looking for a wife. i was up all night crying. please pray for me i am very upset and lonely and want a better life in 2011. pray the hedge of thorns to remove all woman from tim's life and that he comes back to me to be his wife, lover and best friend. iand that 2011 is better for me. my daughter is going to her juinor prom tomorrow and has not called or e-mailed me i have not talked to her in one week and my son in two weeks. my life sucks. pray for me. i dont know what to do . i miss my family especially tim. pray that he won't find a girl to marry and come back tome. he is mad at me for calling him and depeneding on him. pray the hedge of thorns that karen is out of his life too.

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please pray for me deeply. i want to have tim move back in with me and be his lover wife and best friend again. we have so much in common. i love him still. paula

Paula listen to all the good advice they are giving you here. If you have no church, or the church you are attending is way too big to fulfil your needs, then find a smaller church to go to. If there is no supportive group for divorce or separated women, then start one. It doesn't have to be in your home if you are afraid to bring strangers into your home. Just advertise like in the Pennysaver to meet you in a McDonald, Panera, or any other public places where you all can buy your own coffee, and you can sit and meet for the first time, also talk a little without being pushed out and get to know each other. Who says, the churches have to run everything in our life? Take charge of your own life and allow God to help you, not others run it for you. There are so many public places to meet in a little group and have a meeting without it costing a fortune, specially in Connecticut. But you have to do something, if the churches will not help you start one, do it yourself. I know the churches are not kind to divorce or separated woman, I've learned that in my life. I can imagine how God is frowning down on them for it. Believe me there are many out there in the same situation as your in need of supportive and fellowship group. Do something Paula, maybe God is calling you for this ministry, if only for a short time then when your time is up, someone else can continue it. But don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself that's the worse thing you can do. Nor allow Timothy to ruin your life this way. You are still young and time passes us by way too fast. Before you know you will be too old to start anew if you keep sitting home waiting for him to come back. There are many good men out there without garbage in their life. If you will only give yourself a chance and stop thinking of a man that doesn't deserve you, you can find someone better. Your children will soon be adults and will have their own life's to live. So please make your new one now while you are still young enough to do so. One day not far from now you will wake up one day, and you will be an old lady full of regrets for not doing something to start a new life while you were still young enough to do so, is that what you want out of live? We all make our own bed and some say, we have to lay on it. But I say, with God's help and uncondional love he can help us redo it better, if we only allow him to help us, so stop clinging to the old blankets and redo yours.
Lord give Paula the courage, strength, comfort, and wisdom to redo her life while she puts her trust in you all the way. Help her to lift herself, shake off all the old garbage and fears, and march on with you holding her hand all the way to a better life for herself. May she become a great blessing in her life to many that are also hurting the way she is. I pray in Jesus name, amen.