God Bless you.
The origonal, "church," was group meetings in homes.

Some people feel most comfortable with their Christian church of origin, some don't have a Christian church of origin, there are options.

That doesn't alleviate your frustrations.

I've ran across some that seem very humble, some are great speakers but do not have good one on one skills (which is what this preacher sounds like). Each person recieves, The Word, differently.
It is not easy to, "start over," with a new church, getting used to new people, but it sounds like maybe that is where The Lord is calling you. Perhaps The Lord Is Wanting someone to notice (along with HIM?) that the preacher is singling others out?

HE IS OUR FATHER!
& AMEN! God Bless you & on your search for Christian community!
Maybe you are a leader, & the search will be a bit more complicated/ maybe start a home group/ or find a home based church group (God Calls us out sometimes for HIS GREATER GLORY. Listen to HIS CALLING For you!

Guest Wrote:I'm a chemical engineering student at a philadelphia college where I attend a campus ministry (CRU). On sundays we carpool to a church in a wealthy suburb of philadelphia-- it's predominantly white, I tag along, I think nothing of it.

My baptism was not what I expected it to be, I was placed last in line and the pastor didn't pass me the microphone; ok, no big deal, I don't like public statements of faith.

During bible study the same pastor exhibits selective deafness, he dismisses my questions, I no longer participate, and this is a problem now, apparently i'm not engaged. He regularly comments on my origin and the good works the church does there, now implying I grew up in the same poor, desolate, crime-ridden conditions he knows; I've repeatedly stated I grew up in a metropolitan city.

Recently we met for lunch after bible study; the pastor came along. He inquired about my family. He brought up drug cartels in my country and asked if my parents had ever been involved, if not, how could they afford my education. I had to reiterate my mother is a lawyer, my father runs a multinational, we live in a city with a flourishing economy, I did not grow up in a shack.

I talked about this recently with friends from CRU. Seems like i'm not the first to bring issues up, others have felt "left out", i've learnt there's carpools that go to predominantly asian, black, and hispanic churches (with folks I don't know yet). I guess it's race above faith.

I'm angry, insulted, and humiliated; I know i'm different, why can't I enjoy my visits to church? Sometimes I ask myself if there's something inherent in faith that causes people to be oblivious, fearful, ignorant, and in some cases even purposefully divisive. When this pastor conducts service, I grow angry and my faith lingers. To everyone else, "that was a great service, praise the Lord".