My kids are really wonderful. They are respectful to others, kind and loving. They have a great sense of humor and prayerful. I have truly been blessed. With their father it's different. They are very bitter towards him, resentful and some times outright disrespectful. My oldest son 14 seems to be challenging and testing my husband more each day. It is because my husband can be very unjust & lacks understanding and patience. My concern is that even when my husband is trying his best to do things the right way the children are rebellious. I've tried my best to step in and be sure that what he does wrong I do right by talking to him and sorting the situation out. It's taking a toll on me. God has helped our little family to be freed from my husbands violence and I am grateful. I just ask that he help my husband to be a better Christian Father. This way my children can begin to heal and stop being disrespectful and defiant towards him. I also need help to lift this weight off my shoulders. in Jesus name amen