hi i am very very depressed this morning again. pray for me. dont feel like doing anything going to gym cleaning crying again. tim yelled at me last night did not call or come see me miss him and my kids and made mistakes at work again my life sucks

Until you let your ex go, which is exactly what he is wanting, you will never find any peace in your life. You understand the marriage vows completely, you did your part Paula, you kept your vows, but you are divorced. That doesn't make Tim's dating right as you never cheated on him, he will have to account for his sins & choices. Your standing in the way of his complete falling into the arms of God though is not healthy for you, for your children & for Tim. Tim is not right with God from all you have shared. Until you let go completely there is little chance that will change. What you do not see is it is vital to release Tim.
Divorce is a horrible thing, especially when one is the spouse that does not desire it. However there are those that are not mature enough to be married, their nature is irresponsible & self centered. Once you let go, cut ties with Tim, as is what he wants, you will find peace.
That doesn't mean it will be easy but guess what Paula, life isn't easy.
People who's marriages work, those that fail, our life' circumstances will be filled with challenges ongoing as Christian warriors.
One has to choose the battles to fight. Decide wisely, always follow God's Will. Even if you remain loyal to Tim in spirit does not mean clinging to him in flesh. You can live your part of the vows, as you desire, God Sees All & you will be rewarded for your strength & courage.
But Tim's soul belongs to God & it needs much work. You standing in the way right now is not helping anyone, in fact it is hindering (imo) Tim's progress & you are choosing to alienate those children from what could be a good mom.
Taking that step to cut off this cancer that Tim has inflicted, is the healing I believe you need. You are sinking with the ship. No you didn't cause the wreck but if a few can be saved & prosper in this mess then why not that be your choice?
Ongoing we are given choices, we are rewarded for these, by His Grace, in Heaven we reep what we sew. Your now ex desires that you loose him, let him fall, it's exactly what he is asking for & what he needs.
We belong to GOD. Yes, your ex is a jerk, he is uncaring, a playboy, he did you wrong, no doubt about it, from all you have shared. He is not a good spouse or father in this life as this is not his focus or concern.
Paula, let go of this shipwreck. Jesus Is your Lifesaver, your All, we are one in HIM, believe that power & you will heal. The only perfect is Heaven my dear. The ship is sinking, Heaven Is Above, look to those that choose to live by His Word. Be a leader by letting your dysfunctional ex husband go. He didn't & doesn't want you. God would never do you like that, ever.
Take the leap of faith & heal.

(05-21-2011 04:26 AM)paula0331 Wrote:  hi i am very very depressed this morning again. pray for me. dont feel like doing anything going to gym cleaning crying again. tim yelled at me last night did not call or come see me miss him and my kids and made mistakes at work again my life sucks

its hard paula,we will have days when we wake up sad but depression is different(its spiritual)if you feel your drifting into depression then you need to pray against it violently but you must muster courage which is difficult when one is feeling down, here is a short example;FOUL SPIRIT OF DEPRESSION I REBUKE YOU,YOU ARE NOT MY LOT,RELEASE ME IN JESUS NAME I COMMAND.now paula you cant expect your prayer(return of children) to be answered straight away,(unless your walking with the Lord as in touching)you need paula, is to take a stance,you must pray then thank the lord then continue to declare that what you asked(return of loved ones)will come to pass(you must believe it before you see it, this is what faith is) u must say too yourself every morning, halalujah thank you Jesus,thankyou for answering my prayer,say it and believe it if you dont then such a mountain will not be removed,so wake up every morning and say satan im not listening to you i will have what i desire for it is written IT IS DONE THUS SAYETH THE LORD you must pocess a positive attitude and you must not be anxious and be of good cheer take a step of faith today also seriously ask the holyspirit if there is anything in your life that may block your prayer life.love and care for you paula

Lord make Paula much stronger as a person, as a woman, and Mom. As you give her the strength to move on and leave her x husband in your hands. May she soon be able to look back and see clearly that it was only her standing in the way of your doing the work that has to be done in herself, her x, and her children. Help her Lord to give it all to you and wait on you until your word is fulfilled in their lives. Lord may she be strong and wise enough to accept whatever your plans are for her life and her loved ones.
In the meantime give her peace of mind, and remove this depression out of her life so she can continue with her life loving you and serving you with all her might. I pray this in Jesus name, amen.
Ephesians 3:16-17
I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God's love and keep you strong.
Isaiah 65:24
Before they call I will answer; while they are still speaking I will hear.
Paula these are God's promises to us, including you Dear Sister in Christ. So please accept it in faith and He will fulfill it in your life as he heals your broken heart and dreams.
He can give you a better life if you only allow him, for he never forces himself on anyone. I know for I have been there too and he has made it all so much better than I could had ever imagined in my wildest dreams. Our Lord is in the business of restoring lives and knows better than we what he is doing and what's better for us than we do ourselves. I will continue to pray for you, but you have to do your part too by letting go and let God do the work.
Start by force yourself to go to the gym, it will be like medicine for you today and tomorrow and help your mind clear up some. May Our Lord be with you and guide your steps today and always!

Paula, you can let go & move on. Your ex husband is not free to be dating or marrying another woman because you were faithful to him. You are free to move on because you did not walk from this marriage, he did. God Be With you.

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Paula, my ex husband is a very evil soul. I can relate to your pain. Trust in HIM. Your ex will have to deal with God. You however can begin to heal if you allow yourself.

thank you

still not doing well need friends and new job and better 2011 basically no life

Lord, Continue To Heal Paula in her divorce, with her children, her life. Bring a restoration of healing that she live a life pleasing to YOU. She did not desire this divorce, & did all she possibly could to save her marriage to no avail. Heal her now Lord, that she find peace, love, joy, in her life. Let her prosper & give YOU thanks & praise. Help her find other divorced women to heal with, that her job is secure or another better one opens up for her Lord. Give her healthy friendships that are of YOU Lord in her life. Let noone lead her astray, keep the enemy far from her. She has had enough trial & tribulation for one life. Let her be empowered by her own God Given talents & strengths & share them with others that it be of Your Will. Help her rebond with her children, that their lives now mend with no more disturbance from her exhusband.
Paula, Lord, is someone that is totally devoted to you & was to her marriage & family. She is grieving Lord from unwanted loss. Help her to walk forward in her life. Be her Guide Lord Jesus Christ. There are many that would love to lead astray yet there are also those that live by The Word of God in all of their affairs. Help her to remain & heal with those that are true to YOU LORD JESUS CHRIST.