Paula i apologize on behalf of my brothers and sisters if we have made you feel that we have judge you.God loves you and want the best for you.The question is do you want the best for you.Love doesn't hurt and anyone who hurts you willingly?The Lord have given us free will to make inform decisions.Are you using the gift he gas given you?First we are accountable to God before we are accountable to someone else.Make Jesus master of you life and let him work on you.But first you have to accept him and be willing to change.The question is.Are you willing to do the work to get Tim and the kids back??Lord help Paula in whatever trouble she may be facing this i ask in Jesus name and may she seek your face in whatever she decide to do.Amen