Sister the bible say that my people die because of a lack of knowledge.When one is in pain the only one that can deliver that pain is Jesus.I urge you to accept the Lord Jesus with all of you'r heart and give all you'r troubles to him.I know this is difficult to hear but we always want to change other people before God have work on our hearts.Submit to God confess all of your sins to Him and be willing to do all that he ask you to do.Read the bible get involve in a prayer group and start acting like a believer.Love those who hate you do good to those who despise you.We can't do it but God can that is why he sent Jesus to save us.I urge you give it all to Christ and i promise you sit back and see how he work not only in your heart but that of your family as well.Jesus loves you and is waiting all you have to do is to open your heart and say Lord come into my heart and take away these pains in Jesus name.