Ron, I read through your own words describing your wife's conduct to accuse her of adultery and masturbation which sound to me that you are the one with the problems. If she continues to deny it, then maybe she is telling you the truth. Perhaps that you can't seem to trust her in any way and accuse her again for a personal act of masturbating as if she is a sinner and a lier means that she has no home to be at home. You have created a hostile environment for your spouse to live in fear and doubts and insecurity and in judgment. She maybe holding a man's hand in front of you in lovingness and still not be cheating or have to intent to cheat. It is you who has witnessed something that has set you off into jealousy and depression. The sin is not her but of yours. Perhaps God has nothing to show you since you are out of control and causing an unfit home to live in for you and your wife. Perhaps you need counseling for yourself first and then as a couple. If she saids that she did not do it, then its your job to trust her. You failed this miserably. If its a lie, God will show you in time. You did not wait for answer but accused and condemned and destroyed out of jealousy. You have no evidence since your wife has told you directly over and over that she did not cheat. She is obviously lonely to not be in peace in masturbating either that you are leaving her a stranger in her own home. Get a grip!!!