Yes, I too agree I would have wanted to know from a friend my husband was cheating instead of the horrible way I found out. He did leave and now is engaged to the woman he left me for. So much unavoidable pain if people would just take their vows of Better and Worse seriously...just because the grass appears greener, it still has to be mowed...I think God was pretty serious or there would not be a commandment and numerous chapters in the Bible warning against it and condemning it! I will continue to pray for this situation and all those who have posted the hurtful realities of facing divorce and infidelity. Funny to me how much can change in a marriage from the hopeful wedding day to the day one spouse turns and breaks the covenant between themselves and God...I just don't get it.