God is not the author of confussion. You sound really insecure. I would never play second fiddle to any man. I think that Steve gave you sound advice. Look to Jesus and he will grant you the desire of your heart. You want and need the love of a husband and the one God chooses for you will be the best for you. Your request also sounds that you are a desperate woman. Be confident and self secure. Then you will be admired and respected. Love will follow. This may seem harsh. I simply wish to speak the truth in love from a sincere heart who wants nothing less than the best God has for you. If you feel the need to defend yourself than look deeper into your heart. I did not mean to offend.