Ronjs - I want you to know that I have walked the walk you have. I know the terrible depression that strikes through all of this. I remember sifting through all my husbands stuff to find evidence (but he was SO good at hiding it all), eventually my pastor got it out of him. He promised to stop - I caught them together. I nearly went crazy, insane, up, down, anger, sadness, begging, pleading, it was too terrible and so i understand. Ron please seek Godly council from your Church or through a Christian counsellor soon ok. Satan can use this situation to destroy you and we know he comes to lie, cheat and STEAL so FIGHT BACK. God knows what your wife has or has not done. HE will judge you and he will protect you too. Ronjs, it is hard but while you have a right to divorce her due to adultery, Christ calls us to forgive and seek reconcilliation. Focus on YOU right now, focus on being the Godly husband that Christ calls you to be. Dont focus on her and what she has done. Focus on YOU. Pray for her, and as hard as it is pray for the other man (believe me this was HARD for me to do - but I would not let her have anymore power over me) and Ronjs, BELIEVE, BELIEVE in the power of God. I will pray for you ok. May God protect your heart. AMEN.