*Update* My wife seems to be slipping further and further from God. She's reading pornographic books, wants nothing to do with fellowship, and is continuing to lie to me about her involvement with this man, and now about our finances as well... I'm still praying constantly for her and for the marriage, but it seems that every time I find out some new piece of information, it is bad news. I'm doing everything I can to treat her with love and respect, but I feel like she's slipping away from me a piece at a time. Some friends were praying about the situation recently, and one of them (without knowing any details about the situation) said "I feel there is a big dark secret that one of them (as in husband and wife) is hiding." I know I'm not hiding anything from her, so I've been praying that she will find the courage to come to me and confess so that we can finally begin to heal, but she is so distant and guarded, I wonder if she'll ever open herself up to God... I know without The Lord, she will still be in the enemy's camp, and with all of the pain in her past (she has a history of abuse), that there is little chance of change. She is hardening her heart on what feels like a daily basis. I am asking that The Lord soften it and bring her back to me. I still love her and want our marriage to work. Please pray for my situation. Thank you.