Hi, I want to talk to you about my marriage for 20 years. My husband is impotant by choice. He is a workaholic. He shows no expressiion of intemacy. I am no more than a cook, housekeeper and roommate. I am not in love with him. I don't even like him. He is passive aggressive and He turns me off because he never touches me, rarely do I get a hug. One peck on the lips before bed and thats it. He will not talk about it or do anything about it. I have tried talking and suggesting councelling. He is not interested, he just bows his head and says nothing or cuts me off and walks away. We have no relationship whatsoever. I feel like his roommate and I am sick of it. If i was not a christian I think I would take my 2 kids and leave him. Of course I have no money to walk away either and fear being alone more than anything. Is there hope here? I have given up. He has not ever said you look nice. He never takes me out on a date. I must initiate everything if I want to go out and sometimes it is like pulling teeth. I am positive that I mean nothing to him. He is in love with his job and himself, they are his mistresses. I have suffered and maybe he has too in his live. Is this an excuse to abuse me and control me? I think it is. I give up. I just give up. I will be free when one of us dies. I asked to have our wills made up years ago and he won't get to it, too busy. I feel that in his eyes I have no value. He proves it every day by his actions.