Hi, I want to talk to you about my marriage for 20 years. My husband is impotant by choice. He is a workaholic. He shows no expressiion of intemacy. I am no more than a cook, housekeeper and roommate. I am not in love with him. I don't even like him. He is passive aggressive and He turns me off because he never touches me, rarely do I get a hug. One peck on the lips before bed and thats it. He will not talk about it or do anything about it. I have tried talking and suggesting councelling. He is not interested, he just bows his head and says nothing or cuts me off and walks away. We have no relationship whatsoever. I feel like his roommate and I am sick of it. If i was not a christian I think I would take my 2 kids and leave him. Of course I have no money to walk away either and fear being alone more than anything. Is there hope here? I have given up. He has not ever said you look nice. He never takes me out on a date. I must initiate everything if I want to go out and sometimes it is like pulling teeth. I am positive that I mean nothing to him. He is in love with his job and himself, they are his mistresses. I have suffered and maybe he has too in his live. Is this an excuse to abuse me and control me? I think it is. I give up. I just give up. I will be free when one of us dies. I asked to have our wills made up years ago and he won't get to it, too busy. I feel that in his eyes I have no value. He proves it every day by his actions.

Who is in charge of your lives together, it's not us! Many of us here, wish we had a companion provider and some security. Forgive me, I have played Devil's Advocate because if you look at some of the other marriage issues here, yours is blessed, you are not cooking, cleaning, being talked to nasty, and then taking a beating, before you are thrown in bed and violated!

Now the Assistance: You have not asked anything from us, just exposed dissatisfaction. If you are not joined together by God, file for a divorce. You will find what you look like when you are free, and if anyone notices. You also might consider going to work, to pay your own bills, then you'll still have to come home and cook, and clean, and be really alone.

Dear responder, I have a very good income and contribute to this family. I am more than capable of financianally providing for myself and have brought much income to this family. I was seeking prayer not condementaion. I am a christian and so is my husband, to suggest divorce is not bibical. God hates divorce. So if you return to this request for prayer please do so. Pee or get off the pot. Yes you are the devils advocate and I do forgive you because you need to walk a mile in my shoes before judging me.

Dear Lord,please have mercy on this woman.
In the Name of the Lord,right now I command to all the power of darkness and the curses to leave this woman! Now!
I pray that Your will to be done in their life.
You are the King of kings and Your Name is Wonderful.
Thank You my Lord