Guest Wrote:I mean I pay more on the debt that I do on my rent.
He is court ordered to pay 1/2 he pays 0.
There is much I do not even share here & ask for prayer for fear it would cause him embarrasement if he were to read here.
But if you think I have not suffered because of marrying this man, who also told me that, "divorce is not an option," well.. this is not true.
It has been very difficult, in my spirit, in my financial situation, I waited to marry many years & he left me high & dry, I was not his first wife, he marries many times & will likely again.
I could not please him.
I guess when you spoke of the mirror & working to make oneself pretty & cook for him, & all of this in your post, & I picture this woman sobbing holding her baby wondering how she will provide & all of her dreams crushed because of his selfish. That is why I said what I said to outward beauty in regards.
I am not here to put ANYONE down & I loved my ex husband more than I could love another man. HOWEVER, I am finished, he left me so many times the door was revolving, & my life has gone on.
I have friendships, peace, fruits of the spirit. Things are coming back in to place SLOWLY. It has been devastating to me, it was my first marriage & I am no youngster.
I waited, on purpose. I don't feel bitter. But I am in defense of those that are hurting & I see this woman hurting horribly.
I want to support her & that she not feel she has to worry now, about her looks. This is not the time to worry about looks. She is devastated.
As I say, I loved my husband, I have forgiven him. I know that it is between him & God.
But I also understand devastation by a man that appears to me to have no concern of marrying women, divorcing & moving on.
I did not have any idea what I was in for. I am a believer & I am fine.

Guests, instead of going on about your PAST, how about praying for the future of the one who posted the request in the first place. . .? Not to judge or demean, but what you're doing, in my opinion, is telling the person posting the request the problems of a failed marriage. And we are praying for restoration and reconciliation from the heart, not to see two guests fighting on about what their husbands (or you, because both people have faults in a failed relationship or marriage...) have done to them, etc. etc. Be still both of you and just pray for who is needing prayer. Also I'm praying for both of you for peace in your actions and words made here. So you guys have friendships and somewhat finished what was at hand, so how about leaving it to God for yourselves and start thinking about something other than your past and opinions of your "experiences" from your past husbands... This is a prayer request forum, not a life-story vent forum.

Lord, I pray for restoration and reconciliation for this marriage. Marriage is something I truly believe in and I'm praying for restoration in the hearts of many. And Lord, please bring peace to this forum before this turns into a soap opera that is not needed. Amen.