I mean I pay more on the debt that I do on my rent.
He is court ordered to pay 1/2 he pays 0.
There is much I do not even share here & ask for prayer for fear it would cause him embarrasement if he were to read here.
But if you think I have not suffered because of marrying this man, who also told me that, "divorce is not an option," well.. this is not true.
It has been very difficult, in my spirit, in my financial situation, I waited to marry many years & he left me high & dry, I was not his first wife, he marries many times & will likely again.
I could not please him.
I guess when you spoke of the mirror & working to make oneself pretty & cook for him, & all of this in your post, & I picture this woman sobbing holding her baby wondering how she will provide & all of her dreams crushed because of his selfish. That is why I said what I said to outward beauty in regards.
I am not here to put ANYONE down & I loved my ex husband more than I could love another man. HOWEVER, I am finished, he left me so many times the door was revolving, & my life has gone on.
I have friendships, peace, fruits of the spirit. Things are coming back in to place SLOWLY. It has been devastating to me, it was my first marriage & I am no youngster.
I waited, on purpose. I don't feel bitter. But I am in defense of those that are hurting & I see this woman hurting horribly.
I want to support her & that she not feel she has to worry now, about her looks. This is not the time to worry about looks. She is devastated.
As I say, I loved my husband, I have forgiven him. I know that it is between him & God.
But I also understand devastation by a man that appears to me to have no concern of marrying women, divorcing & moving on.
I did not have any idea what I was in for. I am a believer & I am fine.