[/u]To whom it may concern,

I don't believe it could ever be the Lord's will for you and this woman to have a relationship, because according to the Bible, what the Lord has joined together (meaning marriage), no man is to put asunder. Simply put, the Lord intended for us to each have one spouse. Therefore, even if she did divorce her husband, the Bible directs that in order to be in the Lord's will, she should only be reconciled to her husband. That being said, it would be sinful to continue in a relationship with her, in a romantic/family sense.

However, you being a father, have responsiblity in taking care of the child and though it was not the Lord's will for you to bare a child in this situation, He would have you to take full responsibility for your actions. Therefore, I would do all you can to be a good father in every sense, financially, spiritually--especially teach them how not to repeat your mistake in the future and show them through your testimony how to follow after God and seek the Lord's will, even if you fall.

I would begin praying for your child's salvation as well and that they would become a servant of the Lord. Ask Him to open the door to their salvation early, so that they would grow in him and hopefully avoid making the same mistake or worse mistakes.

I would recommend that you read about King David and Bathsheba. King David sought after the Lord's will after he went through a very similar situation.

All that being said, turn to the Lord--you have his forgiveness, as you stated--now return the favor and begin serving him. Ask Him to restore your testimony. I do not know if your actions have caused irreversible damages, but you can ask the Lord to clean you up and make you a usable tool the best way He can.

I hope that I haven't been too harsh. I mean everything that I have said in love and I pray that it would be a blessing to you. It's hard when we fall, but I pray that the Lord would still be able to use you and that He would comfort you in this time.

Dear Lord,

It's difficult when we sin Lord, because we can miss out on what You have planned for us. However, I pray that You would show him Your forgiveness and I pray that he would turn to You for guidence, Lord. I pray that he would hear what You would have him to hear and to apply to his life. I pray that he would turn to You and that in spite of his sin, You would cleanse him--if he asks and I pray You would make him a usable tool once again. I pray that he would be the role model you would have him to be for this child and that his mother would also turn back to you. I pray that in this sin, You would be able to teach all parties involved how important it is to follow after You and to seek Your will. I pray that the child would never go down this path, but would see Christ through the situation and that they would be saved early in their childhood so that they would grow up in You and learn to be the servant You would have them to be.

I ask that You would have Your will and Your way.
In Christ's name I pray. Amen.