Lord open the eyes of this woman and let her see it's never to late to learn and to start over again, just give her the will power she seems to be missing in her life. Send her your peace and the strength she needs to learn to depend on one but you and herself. All the time she spend with on people on line she can be studying to improve her situation. She can change her eating habits and also eat half of what she eats now and will lose weight and do some exercises at home all that won't cost her extra. She can also take courses on line in her condition the government will probably help her with the cost. Teach her to stop being so dependent on others, and get up and do something not only for herself, but her children and mother too.
Here I am 81 yrs old my health not that well, but I rather than have medicare come and send me someone to take me to do the food shopping or do my housework, I force myself to do it and never let it get to the point that is will be overwhelming to do myself. Even with so much pain and stiffness I dust, sweep, throw away what I don't need, get the garbage out, do my laundry, and do my own cooking and dishes since I don't have a dishwasher.
When I was younger my husband left me without a cent and two children to take care of, I got someone to baby sit and went out looking for work. She was a good neighbor who did it for free the first week. I got a job in less than a week, and I didn't even finished high school, plus I was shy and had an accent, which I knew was a handicap to me. Yet I took the bull by its horns and lost my shyness, tried to speak more clearly and worked as a counter girl in a coffee shop, near my home where I can walk to. From there I went to become a saleslady in a department store, and from there people told me I was smart enough to work in an office. I tell you where there is a will there is a way, you just have to get up and find it. I have always been good with figures, so I applied for a bookkeeping position. They gave me a test and I got the highest grade of all the others there applying for the job. You see I used to use my time reading things that will educate me. I had a soft cover book on how to learn bookkeeping easy, I believe God was preparing me ahead of time for what was coming my way. I was hired, I paid attention to what they were telling me and took some notes. I made it to the accounts receivable job, then I became the supervisor of accounts payable, and was making enough to support my kids and pay my rent. I even was getting free health, dental and eye insurance for me and my kids. God is great and does help us, but we have to get up and do the work, he will not send you someone knocking at your door to lead you. You start by taking one step at a time and God will see how sincere you are in wanting to improve yourself, and he will help you then, not by sending you manna like he did to Moses in the desert, we are not Moses, not by blaming others.
My prayer for you is that God will open your eyes and let you see you are not handicap. I've seen and worked with people who are blind or in wheelchairs going looking out for work, and working to support themselves.
Lord help this woman see she is not handicap and her children are old enough to take care of themselves, and I'm sure the mother can look after them. Father in heaven may they start to teach the kids to be respectful, but if this mother don't respect herself first how can they teach them? So teach her to respect herself and act like a grownup person and stop blaming her parents, husband, kids or anyone else. Give her the courage she needs, and stop being so afraid even of her own shadow. Show her the way to improve herself for her own good, the kids and her mother's. I pray in the merciful and mighty name of Jesus Christ, amen.