RE: Marriage Restoration
There are always two sides to a story. A key point scottg2219 has said is, he has been dishonest. Are you being honest? God is truth. I pray you speak truth.
The lies that Scott has told varied. It would be about his first ex wife, being unable to conceive children, his work, his childhood, his life and everything else became hard to believe, when constantly lied to.
I left Scott and went to a womens refuge with our children for the 5 months, not because of my infidelity, but because of the domestic violence history that was repeating again and his continued alcoholism, which later led to other drugs which I found in the car. I chose to leave him, at that time as he would not move out, because his name was on the lease. The law has changed now with Domestic Violence, and the perpetrator has to move out. Scott has committed infidelity throughout our relationship, which he will never readily admit, I find out from neighbours, people he has been gloating to about his 'conquests', or evidence. This included his ex-girlfriend, as I found love letters he had been writing to her, he has also confessed to being a compulsive liar, also he has in the past has sexual relationships with men. So I found it difficult to trust him not just with women, but also men. He had also joined a band and once on tour I called him and he must of bumped his phone because I heard audible sounds of moaning and groaning.
I went to a refuge again, last year. because the pattern of behaviour continued, yet again. This time he committed adultery with my sister. He plied her with alcohol and took advantage of the situation. This happened in January. I went to a women's refuge in February because of psychological abuse and he ultimately told me to leave. I have the text messages still. He started a new relationship in March with a totally different woman. A woman I have never met, but he has known her for about 10 years. They use to work together, and kept in contact. And this is the situation. I can not remove this post. But found it because Scott had been using my email account to get illegal downloads from a bootlegs site and had this same username scottg2219. I was trying to find out if he is using my details for other illegal purposes. So that I end up getting in trouble with the law, because of him.
Also, Scott has recently used the system against me, by lying in court about what happened between myself and him. This gave me a conviction and affects my ability to work in community services, which I started studying in 2011. Scott told the court I attacked him first and he received only scratch marks and a broken necklace. He lied. He hit me heavily in the chest and fractured my rib, I fell heavily and hurt my shoulder in the process and hit my head heavily on the wooden floor. I was also wearing a moon boot from a sprained ankle. I do not recall much after that, due to hitting my head. I only remember falling, and later the police arriving. Recently he wanted to press charges against our eldest daughter and her partner, because of an altercation between him and her partner. Similar to my circumstances, he lied about what happened and was the aggressor in the situation. Saying he had his new girlfriend as a witness to what happened. He pushed our daughters partner first, in their home and then her partner reacted in self defense. I have the texts from our eldest daughter stating what happened that night, and will be using it in court to have my conviction overturned. There are quite a few 'prayer requests' scott has posted online about my "immoral ways", he has much difficulty in speaking truth. I was advised by a specialist, that Scott has a narcissistic personality. He will blame me, play the victim, manipulate, when he treated me very badly, he would say he was going to commit suicide. For 15 years I endured much, and it affected my ability to trust, confidence, self worth, dignity, mental health, and so much more that I am receiving counsel to try and be free from past hurts.
I have left him permanently, I have set up a new home, we share care of our dependent children and I am relieved and grateful I am no longer in that type of relationship.
I ask you pray he speaks truth, heap burning coals on his head to confess the truth and set me free from his lies. Also I pray for our children and finding a church home for us to attend, where they can thrive, make good local connections and see the hope that I know. I appreciate your time.
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