(12-18-2010 06:57 PM)Guest Wrote: My husband is a passiive aggressive man. He is controling and withholds affection as a form of punishment. He will not touch me and has not for years. He will not seek councelling and no words I say can get through to him. We are christians and I am his second wife. I am sorrowful even unto death. I wish that the Lord would take me home so I will not have to suffer any more. I cannot bear the rejection. He is devoid of emotion. My life is that of 2 strangers living together until death seperates us. I pray for your understanding and ask for prayer. This is effecting my health and I am emotionally exhausted. Why can't he just love me in a tangable way. My heart is broken. He will not communicate about anything that envolves my feelings or our marriage. I have tried and tried in vain. That is why I have given up. No one should have to beg to be love.
Stop Blaming God and feeling self pity in Jesus' name. Continually I hear people ask why does God allow crime, sickness, natural disasters, etc. These people are Christians and nonbelievers. I deliberate Christians as ignorant to ask these questions because those answers are in the Bible. I deliberate the nonbelievers as ignorant because it’s ludicrous to accuse a God that you don’t believe in. I wish people would stop looking for a genie to appear and do the research themselves. It’s absurd, God doesn’t exist but he’s the cause of everything ‘that doesn’t go our way.’ Why is it not Budda’s fault, or Muhammad’s fault, or Hindu’s fault, or the statues people worship a fault? Why are we humans the source of everything good yet when a murderer comes in your home and takes a life suddenly it’s God’s fault? As if God is a big powerful spirit looking down on us with hate and wants our lives to be miserable. I do believe God is in control of everything but that doesn’t mean everything is God’s fault. Some things we bring upon ourselves and we do have to recognize there is Satan and his demons who are out to destroy all Gods creations. The biggest question is why does God allow bad things to happen to good people? Why does God allow murders happen to victims who didn’t deserve it? But, have anyone asked God why he allowed them to get away with cheating on that test to past the class with a grade they didn’t deserve? No. Now, I’m sure you’re asking me am I really comparing murder to a student cheating in a classroom? Yes, I am because no matter how different the circumstances are, it all fall to the same conclusion. We ask why does God allow bad things happen to good people. But, why do we allow ourselves who supposedly be good people to do bad things? Why do we allow ourselves to judge? Why do we allow ourselves to hurt others because we’re hurt? That's what a murderer is, a person who’s hurt and wants someone else to feel pain because no one likes to feel as if no one knows what they feel. Then there are things that happen that we have no control over no matter how we live such as natural disasters. Therefore, if you want to know why God allowed the tornado to come through your neighborhood and destroy your home or take your loved ones then just ask. God is not a being who you have to sacrifice a certain amount of money to talk to. God is not a being who requires a certain social status to talk to him. God is a being who has ears for everyone. If you want to gain some wisdom about God’s plans for earth and our personal lives then read the Bible. People assume the Bible is nothing more than words to encourage us to live a peaceful and happy life. Albeit that is a part of it but the Bible is much more. The Bible explains in many ways why does bad things happen to good people and it explains God’s justice system on wickedness. The book of Job is the most vivid story of bad things happening to good people. If you have a question you want God to answer directly then pray. You don’t always have to get on your knees to pray. All you have to do is call God’s name, ask your question, and he will answer you. People are too stubborn, they think because they don’t claim themselves as Christians that they shouldn’t pick up a Bible yet they have all these accusations about God. DO YOUR RESEARCH! Its utter ignorance to question God and seek the world to answer it. To seek science and man to answer your questions about God. What knowledge comes from accusing a God you know nothing about? You’re merely being evil as the evil you blame God is allowing! I’m not saying I understand everything that happens under the sun. There are things that happen in this world that I don’t know why such as human trafficking of teen girls, how little kids get beaten because their guardians are bitter of their own lives, why do police abuse their power, why black men fight over petty things, why are some white people secretly racist as if we don’t notice? Probably all these questions will never get answered, and the crimes probably will never change. I believe they will have a different degree if we do something about it but other than that I know it will continue until the end of time. So why dwell on it? I’m not saying because it will never end that we shouldn’t try everyday to stop it. But, are we going to do something about it or just sit back and blame God for it? Natural disasters are not our fault, and yes we can blame God for them because God is in control of all natural disasters. But, should we blame God as to condemn him for our lost? Instead, we should pray to God to help us see through our lost. God brought the calamity to us so don’t you think he can bring us out? Therefore, I don’t think it’ll be a good idea to be mad at God because it will merely make a bad situation worse. Have I ever had a reason to be mad at God? Yes. Where did that anger get me? Nowhere. Every minute we spend being bitter at God is another minute we waste gaining understanding of our circumstances. Humans make promises, and merely half of us keep our promises. God makes promises and has nor never will break his promises. His word is true, and his word is just. Whether his words speak of joy or sadness, his words are righteous. If God says a disaster is coming then should we worry? If God says, he will protect us then should there be a reason for us to doubt? If God says, we will die shouldn’t we have peace that we will have eternal life and confidence that God is taking us because our will on earth is finished. If God says he will restore sevenfold what the tornado, earthquake, or hurricane takes away from us then shouldn’t we have confidence to not hold on to our belongings because we know what is to come is greater than what we already have. Albeit, God never promised that our life will be perfect. He never promised that we will understand everything that happens under the sun. As a person may never understand why God took their child away but what will we prosper by being bitter to God? Maybe some circumstances are not meant to be understood, but we can have peace in all our circumstances. We can pray to God to heal our pain and to open our hearts for forgiveness.
