Ald
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RE: Crazy world, fear of things
(07-24-2020 07:20 AM)Guest Wrote: Lord open the eyes of this woman and let her see it's never to late to learn and to start over again, just give her the will power she seems to be missing in her life. Send her your peace and the strength she needs to learn to depend on one but you and herself. All the time she spend with on people on line she can be studying to improve her situation. She can change her eating habits and also eat half of what she eats now and will lose weight and do some exercises at home all that won't cost her extra. She can also take courses on line in her condition the government will probably help her with the cost. Teach her to stop being so dependent on others, and get up and do something not only for herself, but her children and mother too.
Here I am 81 yrs old my health not that well, but I rather than have medicare come and send me someone to take me to do the food shopping or do my housework, I force myself to do it and never let it get to the point that is will be overwhelming to do myself. Even with so much pain and stiffness I dust, sweep, throw away what I don't need, get the garbage out, do my laundry, and do my own cooking and dishes since I don't have a dishwasher.
When I was younger my husband left me without a cent and two children to take care of, I got someone to baby sit and went out looking for work. She was a good neighbor who did it for free the first week. I got a job in less than a week, and I didn't even finished high school, plus I was shy and had an accent, which I knew was a handicap to me. Yet I took the bull by its horns and lost my shyness, tried to speak more clearly and worked as a counter girl in a coffee shop, near my home where I can walk to. From there I went to become a saleslady in a department store, and from there people told me I was smart enough to work in an office. I tell you where there is a will there is a way, you just have to get up and find it. I have always been good with figures, so I applied for a bookkeeping position. They gave me a test and I got the highest grade of all the others there applying for the job. You see I used to use my time reading things that will educate me. I had a soft cover book on how to learn bookkeeping easy, I believe God was preparing me ahead of time for what was coming my way. I was hired, I paid attention to what they were telling me and took some notes. I made it to the accounts receivable job, then I became the supervisor of accounts payable, and was making enough to support my kids and pay my rent. I even was getting free health, dental and eye insurance for me and my kids. God is great and does help us, but we have to get up and do the work, he will not send you someone knocking at your door to lead you. You start by taking one step at a time and God will see how sincere you are in wanting to improve yourself, and he will help you then, not by sending you manna like he did to Moses in the desert, we are not Moses, not by blaming others.
My prayer for you is that God will open your eyes and let you see you are not handicap. I've seen and worked with people who are blind or in wheelchairs going looking out for work, and working to support themselves.
Lord help this woman see she is not handicap and her children are old enough to take care of themselves, and I'm sure the mother can look after them. Father in heaven may they start to teach the kids to be respectful, but if this mother don't respect herself first how can they teach them? So teach her to respect herself and act like a grownup person and stop blaming her parents, husband, kids or anyone else. Give her the courage she needs, and stop being so afraid even of her own shadow. Show her the way to improve herself for her own good, the kids and her mother's. I pray in the merciful and mighty name of Jesus Christ, amen.
Yes, alot us true. I need God to help me and give me a clue as to what to do. I really don't know, there isn't a career I can think of to do. Im an introvert so im not going to be a salesperson, I get sick at the site of blood and guts so that isn't me and Im not a good typist, got fired from a job years ago because of my typing. I have no degree or trade school so jobs out here are unskilled labor, low pay . I work in a retail store and on my feet for hours at a time, doesn't pay well, not 9 to 5, work till 10 or 11 and probably won't get day shift, need a car to work late or catch two buses, buses up here don't run late on weekends so I worry about car dying and hours at work cut. My body is tired and sore and I can't imagine doing this for another 20 or more years. It's not fulfilling. Blaming parents won't change things now, but it's is a parent's time to train up a child a make them an independent adult, able to make it on their own. As a kid I didn't know but as an adult, I know giving kids everything, not punishing them for bad behavior and not giving them chores and teaching them to work for stuff is wrong, that's what gives a person a sense of accomplishment, confidence, teaches consequences and respect and work ethic. Alot of this today going on. I had no role model. Kids I grew up with did well not like me and it's scary and embarrassing. I can't depend on my mom and husband for future. The older you get it gets harder and some don't want older to hire today. I need God to help me. I can't quit my job to go to school. Things I like don't pay well like baking and aren't online, that's hands on stuff. Prayers my kids don't end up like me.
Yes, alot us true. I need God to help me and give me a clue as to what to do. I really don't know, there isn't a career I can think of to do. Im an introvert so im not going to be a salesperson, I get sick at the site of blood and guts so that isn't me and Im not a good typist, got fired from a job years ago because of my typing. I have no degree or trade school so jobs out here are unskilled labor, low pay . I work in a retail store and on my feet for hours at a time, doesn't pay well, not 9 to 5, work till 10 or 11 and probably won't get day shift, need a car to work late or catch two buses, buses up here don't run late on weekends so I worry about car dying and hours at work cut. My body is tired and sore and I can't imagine doing this for another 20 or more years. It's not fulfilling. Blaming parents won't change things now, but it's is a parent's time to train up a child a make them an independent adult, able to make it on their own. As a kid I didn't know but as an adult, I know giving kids everything, not punishing them for bad behavior and not giving them chores and teaching them to work for stuff is wrong, that's what gives a person a sense of accomplishment, confidence, teaches consequences and respect and work ethic. Alot of this today going on. I had no role model. Kids I grew up with did well not like me and it's scary and embarrassing. I can't depend on my mom and husband for future. The older you get it gets harder and some don't want older to hire today. I need God to help me. I can't quit my job to go to school. Things I like don't pay well like baking and aren't online, that's hands on stuff. Prayers my kids don't end up like me.
I also worry about my health, I don't have any health or life insurance now, im afraid I'll get sick or die and what will my poor family do. All I do is work, sleep, get ready for work or laundry and grocery shopping. I don't have much time. My time after work is my time, I come home late, go to bed late. Like people who work till 5 pm, don't go to sleep at 6 pm, I dont fall asleep right away. It's not normal to work later, I'd like a day shift and see people, eat dinner at 5/6 etc...I don't see myself remarrying. I've been separated for about 6)7 years now, no money for divorce, guess my husband doesn't have the money either unless he's waiting for our 14 year old son to graduate high School in 5 years. . Well good bye. Gotta get ready for work.
(This post was last modified: 07-27-2020 08:54 AM by Ald.)
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