Lord, we come to YOU & ask a miracle.
I know it's not what you want to hear but it is likely that your husband is not going to change in this lifetime & if so it will be over a long period of time & through loss & hard knocks.
Abusers which is what you are describing as he is treating you, often are engrained to dysfunciton & chaos. No matter what the spouse does, it is not enough, thus failure is inevitable.
I pray for God To Protect you, that you find support in what you are dealing with. I have been through this same thing, it is traumatic & seems like a chosen insanity on the spouses part, which doesn't make any sense.
A lesson I learned is that God Give us free will, your husband is choosing to divorce, God Hates divorce but he is more comfortable with dissonance than healing, happiness, stability. It's rare that I don't hear from other women similar stories, this is not particularly uncommon, sad but true.
My own sense of it is that many men have not yet separated themselves from their own mother that raised them, they have not matured wholey & in/with JESUS CHRIST, so they are in search of a mother, a fantasy that is not real. We are not their mother & we are not God, so we are ultimately not able to change the situation but accept what is.
Divorce is common. We are unique in/with OUR LORD. God Is our Spouse, we as Christians can no matter what, grow in HIM. Your husband & potential ex husband can never take away who you are in JESUS CHRIST, vow to live for HIM & that nothing he says or does will affect you that you can't heal. Ask God To Speak To you, Show you why this is happening. BELIEVE in JESUS & let HIM Be Your Lead/Head, your husband is wanting yet to play, non commital, whatever it is with him, allow him to fall & continue to do what is right by GOD. You will be forever blessed! He can't hurt you. He cannot take what is yours, the ability to love, be loved & give love. There are many good people in the world that will help you through this. You are in my prayers!
Hugs.
(05-19-2011 11:42 AM)CLBMo Wrote: I desperately need prayer that God will open my husband's eyes and show him the truth and stop the divorce that he says he's going to file for. My husband has truly been brainwashed into believing false teachings of his parents, including the idea that a husband becomes equal to God in his wife's eyes when they marry. He also believes that a wife is supposed to obey her husband no matter what, even if it goes against what she believes is God's will. According to him, the wife isn't accountable for any sin that comes from something her husband tells her to do; he says the husband is accountable for anything he tells the wife to do. My husband believes that disobeying him is the same as disobeying God, since he thinks the Bible says a wife is to obey her husband and doesn't distinguish between a Godly husband and one who isn't. He also doesn't see any difference between obedience and submission.
I love my husband very much and I can't stand the thought of our daughters (12 years and 15 months) losing their Daddy. He's very angry and says he can't stand to even talk to me, although I always try to be kind and loving. He is telling me that I have to drop off our baby with his parents, who she doesn't know because they haven't seen her in six months and who taught him these wrong things, and leave her for the night (she's only spent three nights away from me and was with my parents, who babysit her while I'm at work). Because of the way he was raised, he doesn't understand the importance of nurturing our kids. He needs to be right with God and says he plans to be someday, if God lets him live long enough!
