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| Posted by stuck - 12-12-2011 12:52 AM |
(12-10-2011 06:11 AM)paula0331 Wrote: hank u guest about my kids wish i could email u i could use a good friend today. all my friends and tim hate me and kids do to Not to be rude but this is getting confusing. I don't know if people are replying to me or you. The Bible is clear that in cases of adultery or abandonment you are not bound. Not so clear in cases of abuse but God is a God of love and mercy above all things. Why keep obsessing over a man that has not done much if anything positive for your life? Your situation is much worse than mine and if I were you I would not be wasting any more of my time or life on such an evil man. Marriage is a picture of Christ and his church and abuse isn't part of it. Let him go and ask God to heal you of the wounds inflicted and then in time hopefully God will have someone better for you. I don't think anyone can guarantee that your kids will come back since they are not God but I bet if you convince the authorities that the abusive man is out of the picture then you would have a better chance to get them back. Why don't you try and see? (12-11-2011 08:12 PM)Alex Wrote: Thank you for your prayer it is much appreciated. I will wait for God's answer as to what is to be. God Bless You. |
| Posted by Alex - 12-11-2011 08:12 PM |
 Dear Lord Jesus, You have lovingly provided us with a comforter and you knew that we would be in dire need of the comforter's services. Lord, I ask that you use your Holy Spirit to intervene in this situation. So many of your people are being abused even now as I write this prayer. I Thank You Lord for giving her the courage to share her request with us. Lord, let her use this same courage to wage war against the enemy who is trying to keep her bound. She wants out Lord. Allow her the time apart from this abuse so that you can deal with her without all the interruptions of abusive behavour. Lord, she has met someone new and would like to know if he is The One. First -- Jesus heal her so she is not on the rebound and hurting more than healing. Second -- Jesus, allow her to forgive, her heart has grown cold and don't let that be carried on into a new relationship releasing all kinds of triggers and setting her off because it reminds her of him. She has to be whole then she can make better choices by seeing the warning signs of abusive tendencies in people. If the online person is the one -- work it out in her favor Lord with all former strings completely cut. In The Name of Jesus, Amen. |
| Posted by Guest - 12-10-2011 07:52 PM |
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Lord Jesus, God bless Paula with you love and compassion. Lord Jesus, heal her pain. I pray that you would heal her emotional wounds and that her children would come back to her. Thank you Jesus. In Jesus Name, Amen Dear guest, I know one thing. God loves you and does not want you to suffer at the hands of abuse by anybody. I do not believe that would be his will for anybody. I pray that above all things, you keep God first in your life. It is important to have Godly fellowship as well as Godly friends. Hang in there and He will lead you where you need to be. Just wait on the Lord. You will find your way soon. |
| Posted by paula0331 - 12-10-2011 06:11 AM |
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hank u guest about my kids wish i could email u i could use a good friend today. all my friends and tim hate me and kids do to how do u know my kids will come back? in ct they give u free life skills and pay u for going and also free apartment and college and take care of u until u are 23. i miss them so much. i never did drugs porn, alocohol or anything worse thing i did was sware, and yell and that made them nervouse as i was mentally unstable as my husband looked at other womand and cheated on me dating other woman while i watched the children. saw receipts for resturants him and i use to go to. my heart is still breaking over that and it happened one week b4 my bday adn the day after i buired my uncle. then one month later saw he was still searching for other woman.????? and yes i still love him mark 10 and 1 corinthians 2:17 says to be with one with husband. and god so. thanks for listening let me know how u know my kids will come back it was not my fault they are in state care tim beat me u p |
| Posted by stuck - 12-10-2011 04:29 AM |
(12-09-2011 07:03 AM)Guest Wrote: Dear guest, I will pray for you that God leads you into His truths. I pray that you would reconsider how important a marriage is to God, especially if there are children to consider. God loves you and He doesn't want you being abused, but on the other hand He wouldn't be happy if you were abusing your husband either. Did you ever stop to think that you having this "online" friend is part of the problem? How can you say that he is everything your husband is not, such as: he has integrity if you have never even met this man face to face. For all you know, this man could be a woman, or a rapist, or a.... You don't know!! Guest, I am a Christian. I've been married for 19 years and known my husband for 21. I have never been unfaithful and have always been the traditional wife. I have already raised two kids and am now raising my grandson who is almost 4. I stay at home and take care of the house single handed and also have a small business that I run out of my home. I am about as traditional as it gets. I am not making enough money to leave right now but am working on it. I don't believe if a relationship brings you down to the point of suicide that it is worth it. To be honest if I had to do it again I never would have married him. I now realize that you cannot love someone enough for them to change. It is a waste of time. I'm not asking for perfect since I am not but I don't deserve to be made to feel like I am an inconvenience. As an example my husband flipped a biscuit because I asked him for 2 minutes of his time, literally. He wanted to go on the computer and then go to bed. Then he is in the laundry room. So I ask him I thought you had no time yet you are here in the laundry room? I called him a hypocrite and I'm not sorry either. He always does this to me making me feel unwanted and not important. I want to be loved for a change and I will not spend the rest of my life like this. I know the value of marriage and if my husband knew the value of marriage then perhaps he wouldn't treat me like he does. As for the friend. I know he is a man. I am not a cheater and was not on some dating or chat website. I came across his theological videos and I still say he has great integrity. He is not perfect and I really don't know him but he seems like a very Godly man to me. And I hardly talk to him anymore since we both agreed to keep a safe distance since I am married. About a year ago he was there for me when I was at the brink of suicide because of my husband. My marriage problems existed way before I ever came across this man. So the friend is not part of the problem. My marriage is the problem. (12-09-2011 04:12 PM)paula0331 Wrote: amen. i was in the same situation i only wanted u to go to that site if u wanted to keep marriage. sorry was not trying to hurt u. i was beaten up called names, husband did porn, cheated on me. etc. did not work. my kids are in state care twins age 17 i always wanted to be a mother. my ex tried to get kids, alimoney and more and try to make me clinically insane. so i know what u r going through. sorry just thought if u wanted to keep your marriage u can go to those kirk cameron is awesome. i wanted someont to love me protect me and my kids and be there for me working etc. did not mean to offend u i love u amen I know you were not trying to hurt me. I just don't agree with pat answers. Everyone's relationship is different and my husband knows what he needs to do. I spend most of my time alone and I think it is ridiculous when he gets angry just because I ask him for 2 minutes of his time, literally. If I am that unimportant to him then he can take a flying leap as far as I am concerned. You can't make someone love you or treat you kindly. Either they love you or they don't and I have learned from experience to look at people's behavior rather than just words. My husband doesn't swear much but he does insult me at times and he did call me the B word a couple months ago. I let him have it so I don't think he will be doing that again. I've checked him out and he doesn't do any dirty website shopping and if he did or I ever proved that he cheated on me then he would be out the door. The locks would be changed and I would never take him back again. Same if he literally beat me up. My husband has done the occasional shoving but I fight back and he hardly ever does that. But, if he literally beat me up I would call the police and I would press charges and he would most definitely spend time in jail. I would suggest to you that you not put up with any nonsense either and I would hope that God would send you a Godly man to love you the way it is supposed to be. |
| Posted by Guest - 12-09-2011 07:09 PM |
| Paula your kids will come back! |
| Posted by paula0331 - 12-09-2011 04:12 PM |
| amen. i was in the same situation i only wanted u to go to that site if u wanted to keep marriage. sorry was not trying to hurt u. i was beaten up called names, husband did porn, cheated on me. etc. did not work. my kids are in state care twins age 17 i always wanted to be a mother. my ex tried to get kids, alimoney and more and try to make me clinically insane. so i know what u r going through. sorry just thought if u wanted to keep your marriage u can go to those kirk cameron is awesome. i wanted someont to love me protect me and my kids and be there for me working etc. did not mean to offend u i love u amen |
| Posted by Guest - 12-09-2011 07:03 AM |
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Dear guest, I will pray for you that God leads you into His truths. I pray that you would reconsider how important a marriage is to God, especially if there are children to consider. God loves you and He doesn't want you being abused, but on the other hand He wouldn't be happy if you were abusing your husband either. Did you ever stop to think that you having this "online" friend is part of the problem? How can you say that he is everything your husband is not, such as: he has integrity if you have never even met this man face to face. For all you know, this man could be a woman, or a rapist, or a.... You don't know!! I've been there done that before too. I have also been married for over 30 years. I've been in an abusive relationship, so I know. I also know God is faithful. If you are truly seeking for truth, then search the scriptures. God will give you the direction in which you need to follow in your life. You just need to listen to Him and trust Him with it. God bless you guest and I pray your journey will become everything God would have it be. If you walk in Christ and put and keep Him in the center of your marriage, you and hubby both, then you will both be complete in Him. This would take the two of your working for the same common goal. Remember, God must be in the center. If you are not a Christian, then I pray that you would become one and if you are and your husband is not, then I pray that you would continue to pray for his salvation. The husband is he head of the house as Christ is the head of the Church, and the husband should love his wife as Christ loves the church. In Jesus Name, Amen... |
| Posted by stuck - 12-09-2011 04:34 AM |
(12-09-2011 02:43 AM)paula0331 Wrote: loveworthfightingfor.com or fireproof the movie There is no love left. It has been abused out of me. If you want me to do more pleasing just so I can get hurt more then no thank you. (12-09-2011 02:43 AM)paula0331 Wrote: loveworthfightingfor.com or fireproof the movie I think perhaps I should explain myself to you a little better. I am not one to be abused and want to stick around. The bottom line for me is if God wants me to stay with my husband then fine but if not and if I am meant to be with someone else or no one else then that is fine too. I don't believe that love is abuse. And relationships are two way streets. I believe and have experienced that abuse kills love over time. If I were to want to be abused and continue to love someone who abuses me then I think that I would have a serious problem. |
| Posted by paula0331 - 12-09-2011 02:43 AM |
| loveworthfightingfor.com or fireproof the movie |
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