My wife was previously married to someone who abused her physically and emotionally and it took a toll on her beyond belief. I will never fully know the trauma she went through. I truly love her and she has my best friend however her trauma does come through sometimes in the worst ways she will self-harm sometimes when we disagree on even the most simplistic things and I know it is her trauma response from her previous marriage I am trying to convince her to get counseling to help her through some of this stuff as I am not a professional I do not know how to help but it's devastating to see her go through these things as it is taking a toll on myself and my mental and physical health sometimes sometimes I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. For an example I want to do something wonderful like cook her dinner she'll just lash out and say I'm a horrible wife and a horrible woman out of nowhere because I'm cooking instead of her and I'm just simply wanting to show her how much I care and how much I love her and it breaks my heart and I tell her no you are are a wonderful woman and God loves you and I love you and this is your trauma talking and she grabbed a pen and stabbed herself and I just cried and I grabbed the pen from her. I just enrolled myself into therapy to help me through this but she's refusing to go to therapy so please pray for me and my marriage as I want this to work and I want her to be mentally healthy I know I cannot control anybody but myself but I love this woman so much and I know she's a great person that went through so much pain and hurt through so many years of manipulation and torture of a horrible person so please from the bottom of my heart pray for this person to be healed I know God and time can heal all wounds in the power of all the almighty God I ask and pray amen