Back in late April, my wife Liza came to me and said she never loved me - she said she was tired of living a lie wanted a divorce.

We were married last September, and she said she thanks God that we were married only a short time.

She says she isn't attracted to me in any way, that we are completely incompatible - sexually, physically, emotionally - or spiritually. She doesn't feel any passion for me, and wants to find somebody she can feel passionate about, then turns around and hurts me more by saying I should go out and find somebody who does want to be with me.

It's torn me apart emotionally.

I admit that I wasn't always a good husband, that I was too passive when it came to the things of God, not going to church when she seemed disinterested, not leading spiritually.

We seemed hot to start, but started losing steam, and I saw the warning signs, and I did try to act on them, but failed

Then, when I got angry, I fear I became self righteous, though I didn't intend to be. She moved out shortly after that. I never hit her, and that was the only time I was ever moved with anger against her and yelled at her.

She filed for divorce back in May, attorneys have been hired and have been working on this and she's made it clear that "we have nothing to talk about"

I first knew this girl back in jr high/high school - I had the biggest crush in the world on her back then, though it was one sided - but as is normal for military families, we parted our separate ways - only to discover later on as young adults that our parents were both from the same state.

Even then, that was short lived, she was doing things she wasn't proud of and hated her life here - and moved back from here in Albuquerque, to Kansas City - then in February of last year, after nearly 13 years since our last meeting, she found me on my space.

We met up... and I fell in love with her all over again. We started spending more and more time together, and given all the things that had been happening in my life, I was (and still am) absolutely certain that God brought her in my life for a reason - but she wasn't saved. She wanted to know of the things of God, and was interested in me being a Christian, that she wanted it so bad, but wasn't sure of her own salvation... during our relationship, she confessed faith in God.

I asked her to marry me, and she said yes - she later on admitted she had her doubts and felt that she was never excited about our relationship, that it just wasn't meant to be - not that she told me any of this at the time.

It wasn't a long engagement, we got married on the fly - and I was filled with great joy.

But now that dream is shattered, and I ache. I trust in God to get me through this, but it is painful. We may have gotten married for the wrong reasons, - we were already fooling around, and we rushed in...I can accept that, but it shouldn't lead to further sin.

I've shared with her in scripture what God calls us to do, and what marriage means, what it's supposed to mean, and God's feelings on divorce. She's said she's tired of me talking about the bible, and yet turned around and had said she can be a perfectly good Christian without me.

She refuses to acknowledge that she's in sin, and back in June, went as far as saying she found a renewed relationship and love with God. Yet how can we approach the throne with unresolved and unrepentant sin in our lives?

Since that time, she's lied to me several times. She said there was nobody else back in April, yet after poking around enough early on, she had started a new relationship in June, albiet a long distance one - with a man in San Antonio, TX. She told me the guy was her cousin. After confronting her on this, she cut me off of her myspace, but by then, it was too late. The man has his own stuff on myspace, and his posts, and his page tells a different story. It seems he met her back in April by his implications, and has a picture on his myspace of the two of them kissing each other in an intimate way. He's posted stories of his summer, and what he's been through - a divorce not too long gone for him either, so it seems that it's a rebound relationship for both of them.

Pray for me, that any further discussions would be fruitful, that I would be changed even more by the Holy Spirit to be the man God wants me to be. Pray that I don't take a self righteous stand, and that I have wisdom in talking to her. Pray that I'm filled with God's grace and that she find something attractive in that. Pray that I would speak the truth - in love, but the truth nonetheless. Pray that I would resist the temptations of the flesh - as I miss the intimacy we had together.

Pray for her, that God would open up her eyes that she's sowing to the flesh. Pray that the Holy Spirit would lay a deep guilt in her life that can only be overcome by repentance, pray that the Holy Spirit show her what God's righteousness is and what He wants her to do, and pray that God would show her the blessings she will have if she repents, but also the consequences of her actions if she won't repent. Pray that God disciplines her with His loving hand, to bring repentance about, so she can experience His grace and forgiveness.

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through in my walk with God, worse than when my dad passed away. I nearly committed suicide, until God really showed me that my significance comes from Him, and to see myself through His eyes, and not view myself as my wife has.

Pray for a peace to be settled in my heart, and joy, in spite of the pain.

And pray that God lead her to reconciliation - of which I've asked for her to consider many times - and her response has been that she never loved me, and she never will love me.

God has put on my heart to pray for her every day, to seek His Word, and to trust in Him. I believe God has called me to stand for my vows, even if she hasn't, reminding me in His word that He hates divorce. I made a covenant with my wife, and I'm reminded of Hosea in this situation.

Even if my wife has lied to me, to go to be with another man, the lies she told me only create corruption in her new relationship. In spite of it all, I still do love her, so I pray first and foremost that she repent so that she can be changed by our heavenly Father, through Christ to be all that God created her to be.

I believe that a natural result of the fruit that would come from a genuine repentance would lead to a reconciliation of some sort with her, God willing, a satisfying marriage between us. God has put on me to never give up hope, and never give up praying for her - and her family, and even praying for the man she's with, and since he's divorced, I pray for him and his divorced wife, that if it's possible, he can be healed from his divorce - not by being with my wife as he seems to be going on about, but by being healed by coming to Christ. And if possible, let him be reconcilied to his ex-wife as well.

Regardless of this storm, I will trust in Him, just as Job said we should, even in our times of adversity.

One great blessing of this separation is that it has brought me closer in my relationship with Jesus, and shown me my need to rely on the Lord more than ever before. I just pray that God use this to His glory - but I cannot help but pray that if reconciliation does occour for me and my wife, that it would lead to a great testimony of faith and lead others to Him.

Either way, right now, I don't see God bringing another woman in my life - and with my wife's attitude on it all, it would only validate her actions in her own eyes that she was right to leave me, and may even go as far as to say that God didn't mean for us to get together, and me remarrying would be the proof.

I believe that Jesus and our relationship with Him as the Church serves as a model for marriage.

We are the bride of Christ, and he reconciled us to Himself, that even when we were at emnity with God, we love Him because He first loved us.

I pray for a compassionate and forgivng heart in me, remembering that Jesus died for the sins of the world, and by putting ourselves under Him as our Lord, the price is paid for my sins. I pray my wife can experience the same relief and let her have love for me through God.

Ron

Dear Jesus,

I ask that you reach down and heal Ron from the heart pain he is facing right now and that he is making it through this storm in his life.

Lord, you know what is best for him and Lord, even when he does not understand help him to keep trusting, believing and hoping Lord, that all things work out for good.

Allow your will to be done in this relationship Jesus and Lord, no matter what the outcome is, help Ron to know that you are faithful to complete the good work you started in him.

In your precious name, I pray Jesus.

Amen.

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Dear Jesus,

I know this is a real sad song, but help it minister to Ron's heart and let him know that so many of us , have dealt with broken hearts. You will give him the strength in his heart to carry on, Lord Jesus and will put new songs in his heart. Help him to know too, that no heartache or trial is worth taking his own life over. That the sun will come out again and that you are close to the brokenhearted. You are the healer of all hearts Lord.

Help him cry his tears and allow your healing to come into his life, knowing one day his heart again will leap and dance for joy again, no matter what your will is.

In your precious name, I pray Lord Jesus.

Amen.

Father, I ask you for your intervention in Ron`s marriage. We ask that you would work in a mighty way in his wife`s heart. Draw her as you only can. Put circumstances and obstacles in her way to block her from making moves that displease you. I am asking you father, to give Liz opportunities to recognize good things in her relationship with Ron and to return as the prodigal son did. Draw her close to you Lord and place your hedge of protection around her. Like you did with Gomer, cause no man to be attracted to her or be interested in pursuing her. Hosea was called to forgive her and love her. Lord, assign you heavenly angels around these two, to war against those forces that would destroy this marriage. Have these angels minister to this couple, in dealing with all matters of healing and restoration.
I lift my brother Ron up, right now to your throne of Grace and ask that you show him mercy and the peace that passes all understanding. Bless him now and teach him how to pray for his wife, but more importantly, teach him how to love himself as you do. To see himself as you do.

I ask that you bless him with all spiritual blessings, make him fruitful in all he puts his hands to and increase his borders so that all may know that he is mighty man of God and they may see and put their trust in you God. In Jesus precious name I ask, amen.

I will continue to pray for you and your wife. Love you brother.

I will continue to pray for your marriage. Father, I ask you to continue to be at work in this relationship and we have faith that you are still working to save this marriage. LORD, put an iron walll between Liza and this other man, so that they may be divided and separated from any union that is against you. Make the wall hiegh enough not to be able to go over; impenetrable to not be able to go through, under or around; this wall has no whole nor does it have a gate. Put a stop to the divorce and any other devise that destroys the marital union of Ron and Liza. LORD, you said in your WORD, that anything we ask for in prayer and believe we have recieved it, that it will be done for us. YOU also said that, if we ask anything in your name that you will do it to bring GLORY to the FATHER. Your word says that if we ask anything according to YOUR WILL that it will be done for us. You hate divorce, you don't like adultry and fornication (all sexual immorality). We know that you are there to comfort the broken hearted and faithful to all that you have promised. LORD, may you be glorified and exalted.

Father, I pray that you remember all our words and requests in reqards to this marriage and continue to do more than we could ever ask or imagine. Help us pray as Christians and stand in unity for all our marriages and spouses. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven, LORD, is like saying that there is much in your heavenly intent that is "NOT" reflective here on Earth. We are to pray into being; what isn't here on Earth. We stand here now Praying for a marriage that isn't reflective here on Earth, as it was intended there from your Kingdom of Heaven.

Thank you LORD hearing our prayer, amen.

Hi Ron,

I am so sorry to hear of the difficulties in your marriage. Based on what I gathered from your post, it sounds as if your wife and you are not on the same page in the hymn book - if you know what I mean. All of us are at varying levels of spiritual maturity. Please know that I will pray your marriage be restored and that is a healthy, happy one in which God is the center. Please hold on and be obedient to the Lord then leave all the consequences to Him. I live by this and I promise it works! God bless you, Ron!

Love in Him,
Cheryl

I am still praying Ron, I am praying for breakthrough for your marriage with Liza. I will stand with you in the gap. Lord, I am asking that you accept my pray on behalf of Liza. We ask that you would send your Holy Spirit to her now to bring about a change of heart and direction in her life. Cause repentance toward salvation and full acknowledgement of you Lord. Let your Joy rise up into her heart and make it unmistakeably yours. Not that which comes from the World or our own self ingrandisement. Close all those paths that will lead her down to the pit, down to the paths of destruction and lead her away from the immoral man that cares nothing for her spiritual fidelity. Drive out the enemy before us, I say destroy him who comes against our home and all his evil works. Render all that stands opposed to the marriage and this family as though they were not. Bless Ron with every spiritual blessing in Christ and make him a blessing to be a blessing in Jesus name, Amen.

Here is another breakthrough prayer on your behalf, Ron. Father, I ask you to show your mercy towards Ron right now meet him at his point of need. May he find your favour Lord and bless him and his requests now and forever more. We have asked you to break every yoke, bondage and stronghold that we know does not come from you. Satan has to flee from Liza because we are in Christ and we have commanded him to leave in the name of Christ. Come quickly Lord, to recue us from anything that seeks to destroy us for you are our shield and glorious sword. You are mighty to save and your protection is a mighty fortress. In Jesus name, Amen.

I will pray throughout the weekend for your marriage, blessings

Father, I ask you Lord to close Liza in, harass her with your Holy Spirit until she turns to you Lord for relief. Hem her in, cut off paths and close doors that are not your ways. Lead, Guide and direct her Lord so that she comes to the full knowledge of you. Lead her to repentance unto salvation and renew a right spirit in her.

Help Ron's heart and speech to be ready with gentle answers, fill him with the fruits of your spirit so that Liza finds that attractive in him and irresistable. Lord, give him many opportunities to be used by you, when meeting and speaking with Liza. It is a good request to want to learn how to live as Christ lived, to be pleasing before you Lord.

Give Ron special moments of favour and encouragement throughout these days as this is a difficult season in his life. Your plans are not to harm us but to prosper us, give us hope and to give us a future. Lead us to triumph and we will thank you for the victory in Christ`s name, Amen.