RE: PRAYER FOR MY MARRIAGE..
Llen you are hurting and I feel this in my heart. But the pain will pass as time does and as God works to heal your heart. We human beings are so fragile...and the things we endure can create desperation in our hearts which only serves to make the pain worse. And so I ask you to ask yourself this question. Do your really love this man? Do you love him as Christ loves him? Is it Agape love that is flowing through you at this moment or is it Eros...the Eros love (that which is romantic love) causes pain...but Agape love never does. It has taken me many, many years to understand this. What I have discovered is that if we focus more on Agape love for those we care about when they have hurt us...our pain lessens and our messages to them change as do our prayers for them. How do we know the difference? I think the supreme test is if this man chose to follow his fleshly desires for the rest of his days that led away from you...if he chose to remain disobedient to God would you, could you still love him? Or would you let seeds of bitterness take root in your heart and find yourself remaining in despair? And so I ask again...do you love him as Christ loves him...enough to pray for him and let him make his mistakes and go through his foolishness. You see despite how he is grieving the Holy Spirit...Christ our Lord and Savior still loves him as much as he loves you and me. It is hard I know...but it helps to focus less on what WE want...and to focus more on what God wants for this man and God wants him to return to Him and to His ways. Scripture says it all...
1 Cor. 13: If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Llen...think on this...pray that he returns to God...and keep your focus not on your pain but on loving him without expectation. Remember love is not self seeking per the scripture. In essence...let him go and do whatever he wishes...because you cannot change it anyway...but keep HIM not your desires, not what you want...but what HE NEEDS before the throne in prayer. Don't call, don't wheedle, don't beg for him to return...but pray that the Lord will bring him to conviction...that the Lord will lead him to be restored as a man to truth, to his vows and to dignity. And whether he responds or not...keep loving him as Jesus does...and praying for him as God says we should. We love you Llen and our Father loves you even more. Give this to the Father...and focus on loving the Father back more than your desire for this marriage and you will find his peace. In Jesus name...Amen!
(This post was last modified: 04-29-2012 09:39 AM by adoring1.)
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