I pray that you will both be guided to seek Christian Councelling. Watch the movie Fireproof and pray together. You are in for the fight of your life. I pray that you ask God to change YOU and then your wife, you will also need to break the soulties from your affair. I pray that you both become a testimony to a marriage that can be restored with Christ as the centre. Holy Father, have mercy as another marriage flounders under the weight of possible divorce. AMEN. Also have a look at Rejoice Ministries online and Karen Petke on Facebook.