Dear Smarais, are you a Christian? Have you really prayed about marrying this man? If he talks ugly to your family and his own family and is short-tempered now, what do you think he will be like when you two are married? Believe me, dear, he will be much worse. Before you ruin your life, please pray to Jesus about this and read His Holy Word, the Bible. He tells us not to be yoked together with unbelievers. Even if this man is a Christian, he obviously has problems and I hate to see you get into a very unhappy marriage. My prayer is that the Lord show you the right thing to do and also for your family to help you. God bless You.