My husband and I have been married for 9 years, we have 3 children. 3 1/2 years ago he was having an affair and left us, we were seperated for 1 1/2. He has battled an alcohol addiction for 8 years, but had been sober for a little over a year.

He returned from Afghanistan just 2 weeks ago. Our marriage seemed to be doing amazingly. But then he decided to start drinking again and have another affair. The woman is someone he was deployed with, so in reality I have no idea how long it has been going. Not that that makes a difference. I caught him at her house where we got into a huge fight, the police were called and at some point he pulled out his knife. He was arrested and is now not allowed to come home. He told me he threw my wedding ring away. He keeps saying he did nothing wrong, that it was all my fault for going over there. I am so lost and broken right now. I thought our marriage was wonderful, I thought we were both happy. I am heartbroken. After his first affair and we rekindled our marriage I just thanked God for a second chance at our marriage, I put so much effort to improving all of the things I could. I worked on myself. I tried so hard. I just need guidance right now. I haven't ever felt so lost in my life.