My faithful dearest sister in Christ. The Holy Spirit knows that I am praying for you. You have been asking God many questions about what you are going through personally and many tears had fallen and still waiting patiently for God's answer. You have un-confessed sin in your life and your motivation for your prayer is for the well being of your husband, however you are holding on to unresolved sin and resentment towards the other woman. You must confess this sin. Remember God says, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." You have been asking God to intervene in the situation but you are holding the resentment towards the other woman. You must have a clear conscience and pure motivation. The Holy Spirit has been talking to you about Jeremiah but you did not understand, now I'm telling you.

Let God be God, stop asking why and when. Forgive, forgive, forgive. You are blocking God's immediate answer. Read Matthew 6:15 and especially Jeremiah 17:10