I have to say that I don't judge you. Please know that. Don't communicate with this other person anymore. See, the enemy's main objective is destroying the things Our Lord has created and loves the most, Marriage and Family. This man seems great but he isn't, trust me, this is all the enemy, just like the forbidden fruit in the garden and he tempted Eve to eat it, this is the same thing. it looks great but it isn't, it's horrible and will leave you nothing and i mean nothing but broken hearted, trust me when i tell you this. take this to God, ask Him to help you with your temptations and give your Marriage to Our Lord, He can heal all things, but please don't do this. I know how it feels to be abused and mistreated and sometimes that can make you be even more tempted, I have been there, but Our Lord does not want us to deal with our pain by sinning against Him. This has to be very painful for you and my heart bleeds for you. Our Lord can take care of all of this, and He will. He already is. Our Lord loves you and adores you, no matter how tempted you are.