First you search your heart. God does not expect you to be abused and you seek Christian help. (counselling etc) Then........you both go for help. If he wants out, so be it. Divorce must be a final option. HOWEVER ...........in the meantime you do NOT cling to another man to provide for you in place of your husband. You wait until your divorce is final (if that is what God wants) and well after you have recovered and been on your own, seeking God's will then, and only then do you look at another relationship. Trust me - on this. Do not go into the arms of another man, that is ungodly and God expects us to remain committed to him and him only.