Hello;

My mom is very difficult. she is extremely passive aggressive and manipulative. her comments and attitude has made it very difficult to have a relationship.

many of her family members have died in the last few years and they always "rescued her" from her problems, bailed her out financially, etc. now she thinks I should play that role.

she's 67 and very bitter and depressed her parents both died in the last couple of years. while i understand grief, it's taken over her life and grief for the dead is going to cause a loss of relationship with the living.

there's a new testament verse that says "parents don't burden your children lest they lose heart...."

well i certainly have. My parents were married 9 times and divorced 9 times between them (my dad 6x, mom 3x).

I've suffered greatly because of their "actions" that they never want to seem to take responsibility for. my mother has been very abusive verbally for many years. she had to take care of her parents the last couple years of their lives and wasn't really able to do it mentally or physically and it has caused her to take it out on other, ME specifically.

I'm planning on moving 3,000 miles away where I have a vacation place to get away from this, however, I would like to have a good relationship with my mother. However her idea of a good relationship is her dumping all her problems on me and calling me everytime something goes wrong.

she left me a manipulative email last week that she lost her phone and would have to choose between replacing it or paying her electric bill..

I have lost heart and am giving up unless there is a miracle in the way she treats me. I do have faith that can occur, so i hope you will pray for me

Thanks

SB