Guest,

My recommendation for you would be to wait. You need to get clear guidence from the Lord before getting back into a relationship with this man. Although the Lord would love for everyone to have a happy marriage and for the two wedded to be together 'til death, you have to also consider what is best for your children. If you husband hasn't quit drinking yet, then don't honor his behavior by going back to him. He needs to show you stability before you can even remotely come close to being with him again. Not to mention, alcoholism, as well as other addictions, are prone to relapse. Ask yourself how many times has he "tried to quit" before? How many times did he fall back into sin. Now, I know that his sin is no worse than any other man's, but as I said before, your primary concern needs to be with your children. How would it affect them if they were back in that household? What would happen if he was still drinking? And for you, are you willing to try to fight that all over again?

Does that mean you'll never get back together? No, but you need to wait for the Lord's direction. Get some pastoral advice and pray earnestly. The Lord will show you exactly what you need to do, but as I have said before, your children should be your priority. It is normal to want to get back with a person after a separation. However, what happens a lot of times during a break up, people tend to invision the relationship as they would have liked it to have been rather than how it actually was. Then, when they get back together with the person, they are quickly reminded to due re-emerging, unresolved issues. In a way, it is like we're fantasizing and hoping the second go around will be different, but in truth, until your past issues are resolved, it won't be.

I'm not trying to say by any means that your feelings for your husband are not genuine or that his aren't for you. However, if he is still an alcoholic, he needs to seek help and perhaps you could both go for individual counseling so that you can resolve your issues before moving on to either be together or apart.

I hope this has helped. Remember, put the Lord first, because the bible does speak for hope in reconciliation and that the Lord will take care of our needs if we just give him our cares and put Him first.

God Bless,

Lost Love