I live in the United States and as most Women in Christ we no longer live in the old testament but in the New Testament. We are equal to our counter part even with Christ:

"And if children, then heirs; children of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together." ROMANS 8:17

7 years of HOPE is a long time and to suffer and extend your heart to this man is not what the Lord wanted or wants from you. He wants you to Himself, to pay more attention to Him, to stop pondering your emotions on this man whom has taken your energy. Give glory to God and be greatful that He has kept you apart for He was not a Godly man but desired for himself. Desire for your self LIFE and cast all your cares upon the Lord for He is good and Faithful to all who calls upon His name. Be strong and full courage because the Lord is going to implant you with a new heart a heart to desire Him. Always your sister and co-heir in Christ Jesus.