Okay...as my daddy used to say...this is where the rubber meets the road...I firmly believe that you need to back off of this young man for a time PERIOD. While I may be a little blunt...I do so in love that you might clearly look at some things about this circumstance. Your feelings are far more involved than they should be with his current situation...and even though you say to me...and also to yourself you have accepted that this is just friendship...which you may have done in your head...you have not in your heart is what I discern. Believe it or not, I say this not for only that reason, but because of the way that he is treating you. He is using you as a distraction...(my brother used to do this with many of his female friends) . I say that because in your previous post you said something about him having a good time after he bailed on you today ...which I took to mean he had made other plans...and didn't even bother to tell you until you were trying to find out where you would meet. That is disrespectful of you and frankly unacceptable for anyone. You do not have to be a girlfriend to be treated with greater respect than that! The message that he is sending is he will hang out with you unless he finds something that he feels is more interesting or better to do. By apologizing to him...you are conditioning him to believe that this is okay behavior...and simply put it is not. He should be apologizing to you for being so selfish and inconsiderate. Further...if you were not angry you should have been...as this was extremely unkind. Being angry is NOT a sin. Acting in a heartless way because of anger is. Sweet girl...this man knows you like him (more than just a friend)...and he is using that to his advantage and being rude and inconsiderate. As a daughter of Christ you deserve better from ANYONE including a friend. Do I think he will reach out to you?...Yes when he is not busy doing something else with someone else...and I hope at some point that this will become very unattractive to you! You cannot lose something you do not have...and you do not have the same level of commitment from him as a friend...as you are giving to him!

I am not led by the Holy Spirit to pray that he does not fade away...because I do not think that this is healthy for you to be dealing with in this manner...but I will not pray for him TO go away either. That is up to God...and I believe that God is trying to grow you up a bit when it comes to men through this experience. I pray that the will of God be done in this situation. God will raise up whomever he wishes to witness to this young man...even if he does not know other Christians that you are aware of...and I truly believe that your feelings for him despite your willingness to witness are creating a potential for a great deal of hurt in your life...even though it is not what he means to do. Let us leave it in God's hands who he will use to lead him to the Lord. Let's pray...

Father, you know what you put into my heart about this circumstance...and you know what is really in this sweet girl's heart. You also know what conduct is acceptable among people in general as well as those in Christ. I ask that you have your perfect will in this situation...and that whatever it might be...you prepare this young woman's heart for it and give her a resolve to not accept such poor behavior from ANYONE. Help her to learn to respond without anger...but also in a very candid manner. Saying something to the effect that I really feel that it is quite disrespectful to notify me of your change in plans like this at the last minute and I request that you do not continue to do so in the future...is the kind of thing I mean. Father show this woman what this man is really like...not through the filter of her feelings but under the light of what is good and true. Let her remember that to have a friend one has to be one and this kind of behavior says that this man's friendship is only on his terms even if it is hurtful to her. Whatever your will Father please do it...but as you do...open the eyes of this young woman that she might grow from the experience and set higher standards for herself than what she is currently experiencing in this friendship. In Jesus name...Amen!