The issues did not start with your son, but with you and that ex husband. Neither of you seems to realizes that your son loves you both, and the conflict between you both is destroying him. Eze 18:2 “What mean ye, that ye use this proverb concerning the land of Israel, saying, The fathers have eaten sour grapes, and the children's teeth are set on edge.” While in this account a national issue was explained marriage or divorce is also indicated.

Pray to God, to release your Ex from your heart and forgive him, let your son know that you have. Tell your son you both love him and that soon he will be of age to take on the responsibilities of his education, his relationship with Almighty God, and later marriage, allow him to observe the positive changes, in your life. After, you make the example, your son will eventually fall in line.

Heavenly Father

This is an issue where the parents are still warring even though the marriage is permanently ended. Instead of moving on they are stuck, and are abusing their son, and he is rebelling. You know how to turn the attention of these parents to other things, in order to save them. I ask you to take them to the "wood shed," for a good ole fashioned straightening out.

I ask in Jesus (Yeshua) Name, Amen!