Guest Wrote:Mel,

You have been a blessing to me as well--seeing your situation has been an encouragement to me, because I feel that I am not the only one and I thank you for your prayers. What I meant in the last sentence was that God has said "No" to my relationship with the man I'm currently in love with, but I think that He can better use me to witness to him. I am very inexperienced when it comes to love and I know at times I have been tempted--I think back to when my friend originally took interest in me and I wonder what if it had turned into something romantic. If had constant make-out sessions or physical intimacy that was not promitted, I would be less of an effective witness. Knowing that I was tempted, the Lord has kept me out of the relationship and I think as his friend, the Lord can use me as a witness. The greater "Yes" comes in that the Lord can use me to help my friend get saved--I know for sure that it will come to pass, but it will be in God's timing.

So that's what I mean. Maybe the answer for your relationship is No right now, but it's so that God can bring something greater into your life. I'm not suggesting that this man isn't the one--that's entirely up to the Lord--but what I am saying is that the "NO" right now will eventually lead you to what the Lord wants for you. He wants your friend to be saved. Then, the rest is up to the Lord as far as your relationship is concerned--and by doing it this way, it will be better than what either one of us could have originally asked for.

I know that I would have trouble being with an unsaved man, because it would constantly bother me that he isn't saved--and as I said before, I think I would be tempted to do things that I shouldn't.
Does any of this make sense? I know I'm kind of rambling, but the sentence seemed to need greater explanation.

I hope this has helped you.

Dear Lord,

Please be with Mel. Lord, I know from being in my own situation how difficult it is to wait on someone I love to accept Christ. I pray Lord that You would come into Mel's life and help her to be a witness. Although You have said No to the relationship at this point, we know that You can use her in this time to be a witness and her friend can be saved. So I pray that his heart would be softened to listen to the words You would have Mel to speak. Please show her Your direction and open the door of opportunity so that her ex would be saved. I pray that You would be as a Light and show her ex's need of You and I pray that he would become a faithful servant of Christ.

If it is Your will, Father, I pray that after he is saved, I pray that You would put into his heart the restoration of love that Mel so desires. I ask that he would see her as You would have him to see her and if it is meant to be Lord, we know that You will work out all the kinks. We know that You will create an everlasting love that will bond them together as one. Please heal his heart through all of this and allow him to grow in You and I pray that he would be the leader Mel needs. Allow them both to serve You and be the couple You would have them to be.

I pray that You would show Mel Your will in all of this.

We thank You and praise You for all that You are going to do in this situation and for the miracles that You will work. We pray in Jesus' name. Amen.

I think I get it... and I don't get it at the same time... I might get it sooner or later... but thanks for your prayers and words of encouragement.