Mel,

I feel like you are going through something very similar to what I am dealing with. There is someone that I love as well, but I was rejected for reasons I do not know--however, we remain friends and he's been getting close again. I don't know if he will ever return the love that I give him, but in our time apart the Lord taught me the importance of His presence in any relationship--friendship or otherwise. Something that I have been focusing on is enjoying the friendship that God has blessed me with--I don't know if you remain friends, but I would ask the Lord that you would be content with what you have--that is mentioned several times, especially when we are waiting for a gift, such as love.

Focus on praying for him to be saved, because whether or not you get back together, would you want to see him end up in hell? I realized that when I was praying for my own relationship that I had been selfish--praying for his salvation merely so that I could date him. But, I realized through the months apart from him that I did not want him to go to hell--even if we never got together, I would be eternally grateful to know that he had gotten saved and that one day I would be reconciled as his friend in heaven.

Explore your heart--what are your motives? I'm not suggesting by any means that you are wanting your ex to go to hell, so please do not take this the wrong way. I'm just trying to say that maybe you haven't been praying for the right reasons--ye have not because ye ask not continues with the fact that prayers go unanswered when they are asked in a way that is not accepting of the will of the Lord.

The will of the Lord is for no man to perish--especially your ex, so I pray that you would see that he needs that most of all. Love is not about getting what you want necessarily, but about pushing back your own selfish desires and making sure that his needs are met. Ask the Lord to use you to be a witness to him and to open his heart to the gospel--let it be soft and receptive of his word. The Lord will give you that and that is something you can treasure. Then, focus on your relationship, whatever that may turn out to be.

Please do not take this as a spiritual attack. I'm merely trying to advise you based upon what the Lord has shown me through my own experience.

Dear Lord,

I pray that you would comfort this young woman during her time of need. I, like her, have a lost love, whom I love dearly with all of my heart and this guest proclaims that she has such a love for her ex as well. I pray that in this situation, You would provide direction. Open the door of opportunity for this ex, Lord, to meet You--allow this young lady to be a witness for You and soften his heart to be receptive of his word. Give her the words to speak and shine through her so that all her ex can see is Christ dwelling within. And please, Lord, I pray that he would be convicted and that You would reveal to him his need of a Savior--of Jesus. Put a hedge of protection around him so that the seed sown would not be plucked away carelessly by Satan and allow him to chose his eternal destiny with a clear understanding. I pray that he would be saved and that You would comfort this young woman. Give her direction in her own situation and give her peace. Please Lord, allow her to see what You have for her and if it be Your will after he is saved Lord, allow her to be reconciled to her ex. Allow them both to grow in You each and every day so that Your love would be the bond that brings them together as one unit, serving You.

I ask in Jesus' holy and precious name. Amen.