adoring1, this was my thought too.
Will be praying. We are all connected in HIM, & yes it takes great patience
.. & if they will stay (the spouse that is in continuous battle) & commit, & in HIM there are great rewards.
God Bless.

adoring1 Wrote:Lord Jesus, help this precious woman to understand that she needs to value herself as you do. Not in a haughty way filled with demands but in a quiet and humble way that says that her needs are as important as those of her husband...but she needs to get them met in you. Father...as I read this post I was intrigued by the language or "symptoms" of this husband. While I am not a psychologist, I am behaviorally trained and it would appear that this man has some Narcissitic characteristics. He expects automatic compliance with his wishes...believes that his ideas and his person are more liked and supported than they are...spends beyond his means because he "deserves to"...and has little interest in or concern for the needs and feelings of others. This is a serious personality disorder if accurate and requires great patience and resolve to cope with. While this is most unattractive and can be both frustrating and hurtful, it is wise to understand what we are dealing with so that we know how to pray. Father help this woman to pray that her husband's heart is broken and that he is drawn into a close relationship with you. Humble him down Father so that he knows that he needs a savior. Remove all protection from him and break his heart of stone...without it harming his person...that he has nowhere to turn but to you. Father...within the police unit...let there be a strong mature Christian male that will be drawn to him to assist in mentoring him in what a man is in Christ and who he is to be to this wife and family as spiritual head. Father...thank you for healing this woman of cancer and thank you that she already knows you. Draw her into an even closer relationship with you Father. Let her see her marriage as your work in progress and let her pray for wisdom and growth in her ability to love in an Agape way this man who is struggling with maturity. Most of all Father ...let her feel daily your love and comfort and rest in the knowledge that you are there for her always. If God be for us...who can be against us? In Jesus holy name...Amen!