If you love your wife and want to stay married, don't give up. I know how hard this is, I went through the same thing. I had a 5 month old baby and no job. When the going got tough I gave up. I know now I should have stood firm, but I let what I couldn't see take over. He got his divorce in the end. What I learned is not to listen to other people, pray and stand your ground. I will keep you in prayer and I am standing firm with you.