Help this woman to know that despite the circumstances you still have a plan for her life. In the midst of her pain help her to forgive this man. Forgiving is not for the person to whom we extend it...forgiving is for the person who does it in that only then can they be free of pain Father...and it is also for you. It strengthens our connection with you because, we become more like your son. Mend her heart Father...and protect her children. As for this man...help her to pray for Him and to develop the ability to love him in an Agape way as God does and leave the rest to God with this man. Have her work on becoming the woman God wants her to be without focusing on him! Marriage is not built on the physical part of the relationship although it is a very important part. This woman can benefit from learning from this experience and understand that when things are so bad we do not want to love our husbands or wives at night it is a sign that something is very wrong at the foundation of the marriage and we need to seek the counsel of skilled Christian counselors...as straying will happen. Should it happen in light of the vows that we made...no! But it will...that is simply the way men and many woman are. I pray that this man and woman are drawn closer to you...and fall deeply in love with you Father...I pray that wounds heal and that right thinking returns to all involved. In Jesus name...Amen!