hey joe,
I'll do my best to explain. A standers is a person that is standing in the gap (spiritually) for the spouses or other loved ones. In the context that I am speaking of my marriage, along with others, have been attacked by satan. Spouses, parents, and families have been deceived by the evil one and lead into a life of Adultery,drugs,divorce, abuse and other sins. Standers have been called to stand in the gap, interceding on behalf of our spouses and loved ones and pray for them. To pray that they come to their senses and escape the grips of satan. Of course we are also praying that our marriages and loved ones are healed and families restored but the main focus should be the salvation of loved ones, breaking generational curses, and the most important praying that our families return to the Lord.
So many people have separations and or divorces and try everything that is earthly to heal them but never turn to the Lord for divine healing and asking for him to fight the battle for us. Others are separated or divorced and just give up, walk away and except it. The Lord says that he hates divorce and we stand on his word, promises, and power for the healing of our marriages and salvations of our loved ones.