My Father had a full time ministry and a full time circular job for forty five years, God blessed him in both jobs. When you are married and have a family it is your job to provide for them too. God know if you are using the ministry as a copout from your responsibilities as a husband and father. Remember it does not pleases God to neglect your family for others. God is talking to you clearly enough through your wife, but you are not listening to him. Right now he wants you to do both jobs, it's up to you if you will be successful in one or both at the same time. With God's help you can do both as many other ministers have done and some are still doing. Remember if you neglect your family, what example are you to the world and what kind of witness are you for God? By your example you are teaching the youth to take the easy way out by neglecting their families when they themselves get married. A youth minister has a very big responsibility to the ones he is ministering, for he is opening tender minds and they are so aware of what you do and learn from it. So be careful how you present yourself to them. For if one of them gets hurt by your bad example, you will have to face your maker someday and explain why. I'm sure you know very well what the bible has to say to those who hurt children.
Lord open the this man's eye and ears so he can hear you clearly. Let him see that sometimes you use those closer to us to talk to us. That he will lose his wife if he continues to be stubborn and lazy. Does he expect you to have a whale swallow him and then vomit him up like you did with Jonah in order for him to hear you? Bless him and his wife as they continue to serve you. I pray in Jesus name