There is a lot of shame associated with lust and pornography. If he is convicted about these things, Dan may be so ashamed to come back to you similar to the story of the prodigal son. If you truly love Dan and want to reconcile this relationship, ask God if you should make a step toward Dan even though he is in the wrong. God sometimes comes to us and asks us why we are hiding from him. Addiction to lust and porn is similar to other addictions. It may be hard, but perhaps God would want you to walk with Dan and help Dan from the shackles of his addiction.

Having said that, God is, of course able to help Dan and convict him of his problems directly.

I pray, Lord that you give this woman wisdom and guidance in this situation. It is a heavy one with a lot of broken trust and pain involved. I ask that you help Lynnda know what to do with Dan. Stir in each of their hearts and cause them to approach each other in a way that is pleasing to you. May your will be done. May love increase. And may your spirit and peace overcome. In Jesus' name, Amen.