kyle Wrote:

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kyle Wrote:I know what it's like to be in your situation. I've been faithful to God and to my wife for 8 years now despite her wanting out. She moved out (again) last year, but God has blessed me and I know that He will restore things in His time and has shown me that again and again.

If you need encouragement, look up Rejoice Marriage Ministries from Bob and Cheryl Steinkamp and read some of their stuff.

Do u really believe that God's will is not for divorce but for the marriage to work out?Can a miracle really happen?Ive been praying but well,things got worse.

I believe that He is certainly able to. Read the story of Lazarus being raised from the dead and remember that Jesus intentionally delayed His arrival so that Lazarus would die so that He could show His awesome power. He could very well be doing the same thing in your situation. In all honesty, I know to you your situation seems hopeless, but in reality your situation is not much different than the ones I have read about in testimonies of marriage restoration. I suggest you go to the Rejoice Ministries web page I mentioned above and look for the book "Prodigals Do Come Home." It's written by the husband of the couple who run that ministry who was once in the shoes of your husband. He was abusive and an adulterer and was making "wedding" plans with the other woman (I put wedding in quotes because according to Jesus, it's not a marriage), but God touched his heart and sent him home and now he leads a marriage restoration ministry with his wife. While I am encourage by her words, I really get the most out of his books and devotionals because it gives me a bit of a glimpse into what's going through my wife's head. Also there was another website that I was directed to just today that I think could be beneficial to you (and since I don't believe in coincidences, I think you should check it out). http://www.encouragingbookstore.com/BooksForWomen.html - in particular the three (free) ebooks on the top row. I've read through most of the versions of those books for men and I can tell you that they are valuable reads (and I'm assuming the versions for women are just as encouraging). I can't vouch for everything else on the page though but that's mostly because whenever I see books promising "the abundant life" or books about tithing, I'm cautious. They may be great books, but I can't recommend them without reading them ffor myself first though. The top three though, I definitely recommend.

http://www.encouragingwomen.org/index.ph...Itemid=124

And for the record, before I finish this post, I want to say that I do very much believe that God heals hurting marriages, but I know from experience that He does so on HIS timetable, not ours. It is possible that these next few days, weeks, months or even years may be a supreme test of your faith and patience like you've never had before. If you walk with the Lord during that time, you will come out stronger no matter what happens in your marriage. I've been waiting 8 years (and counting) for my miracle, but I know that it's going to happen someday.

OK, one more thing. I also found this site today and absolutely love it. This guy gets it. He completely, 100% just gets it - http://www.i-love-you-kenisha.com/reply.php

I hope that wasn't too long winded. I tend to be a "why say in 5 words what you can say in 100" type of guy.

Thanks so much for your encouragement and the websites given.I will go into it and continue to pray for this marriage.