My husband left me in May it the middle of adopting our secound baby. He left me for another woman with 3 kids under 8yr. He has claimed his love for her ever since he left. we have councel ed seperatley with the pasture at our church a few times this summer. He forced me out of our home and filed for divorce 1 week after the girlfriend filed. My son and I are living in a condo in the same area we used to live. My husband moved 30 miles away and moved in with his 2 older children from a previous marriage. In December I asked him if he would see a marriage councelor we have benny seeing her for over 2 months. we recieved bad counceling and the councelor was not pro marriage and continued to allow the affair. My husband has been saying all this time he is confused and he doesn't know for sure if he wanted to go through with the divorce and then he says he loves the girl. He is constantly changing his mind. He said he would go to counceling that he wanted to know what went wrong in our marriage and how he could change himself. And maybe it some point we could get on the same page and you never know what God can do. The councelor asked him if he would stop seeing the girl for 3 weeks and see if there was any hope for the marriage he refused. I told him I. The last session I didn't want to continue counceling if he knew he wanted to be with her there was no reason to continue. We left the session and he had tears when the councelor asked if there would be anymore sessions and he said no I guess not. The next day I called our pasture from our sons christian school and told the pasture what had happend In counceling and I wanted to talk to him about it . He said your husband called earlier this morning and said you had a bad session and your marriage was dissolving . He made an appointment to see me next wednesday. He said he wants to talk to him alone and see if there is any way he can plant some trees of restoration or if he is open to listen and he would continue to pray for us. My husband David went to the session and the pasture called and said there are 3 deal breakers in your marriage that will make it or break it and he wanted to see both of us in a week to talk about it . He said if you both are willing to work on the deal breakers then maybe there might be hope. He is contacting my husband to see if he is willing to have this meeting and he would get back to me with a date and time. My husband has been un willing to see this pasture from day one and even cancelled 2 apointments I was shocked he called the day after counceling to see him considering he was so adamant not to go at all . He has not talked to me wants nothing to do with me only calls to talk to our 8yr old son and I see him every other weekend when we exchangel my son. He has showed emotions on and off this entire time with me so he is very hard to read . I noticed a change in him in January of this last year we were at an event with my son and I said I love you and he said he didn't know if he loved me he was confused. I was very upset he had never said that to me before and things just went south after that . He is 49 yrs and very good looking and was getting a lot of compliments and going to the gym before he left he also started taking steroids which I found . I asked him to stop he wouldn't listen. I believe he had a midlife crisis the girl is 7 yrs younger than me. He bought a new car etc. I am waiting to hear from the pasture when we will be meeting and if he is willing to meet to go over these 3 deal breakers he talked about with the pasture. Please pray for my husbands heart to soften towards me his wife Devony and our marriage and for the scales to fall off his eyes and see what he is doing is wrong. Please pray God to seperate David from Julie as far as the east is from the west and to build a hedge around my husband David so he can't find his way and block his paths. To make him feel so uncomfortable in his sin he can't sleep eat or be happy. So he returns to me his wife and ends this affair with Julie and wants to reconcile our marriage in Jesus name it is and will he done Amen. Also if anyone has any advice please help me .[/font]