(12-11-2013 04:46 PM)SevenStrides Wrote: Hi, my name's Allan. I'm a Christian, and I have been most of my life. I've always trusted in God's plan for my life, and I've prayed for a Christian girl who I could have a relationship with. This year, I met a girl who I instantly liked - she's beautiful, and a really lovely person. She's called Majdeline, and she's from Morocco, although French is her first language. We both really like each-other. We share a lot in common, and get on really well... but she isn't a Christian. Right from the beginning of our friendship, I explained to her about my faith and why I couldn't go out with her. From that, we have had many long conversations, I've given her a bible, brought her to church, and we've talked about every aspect of Christianity you could think of. I've really been praying that God would speak to her, and she would put her faith in him.
But to no avail. She doesn't seem any closer to becoming a Christian - if anything, she's further away. She's bitter against God, and sees him as a barrier to love. The only thing that has come out of this is that I've fallen in love with her. I can't walk away from our close friendship - I'm the only Christian she knows.
My prayer requests are these: Firstly (and most importantly,) that through this, she begins to seek after God and that she will become a Christian (in God's own timing, even if it doesn't directly affect me.)
And secondly, that my own faith doesn't falter though this, and that God makes his plan known to me.
Please, please pray for her. Pray for God to shake her and challenge her, and that she makes the decision that could change her life forever.
Allan,
I can relate to you whole-heartedly. I was saved as a young child and grew up, even promising to wait until marriage. I got into college and met a young man who was mormon, someone God put immediately on my heart. I invited him to church, tried to witness, and loved him for two and a half years before we began dating. Just before we got together, I brought him to church, he got the gospel message, but he did not respond the right way. He changed after that, and I gave up. We dated and it was catastrophic. After a year and a half of hurt, I cut off all contact. For eight months we did not talk and I had to make major changes. I made decisions that compromised my purity, although I could say technically I'm a virgin, I am not clean like I used to be.
I'm not trying to scare you away from witnessing to her. Do so. But, if you have to give some distance, you need to. It's so hard, I know from being where you are. He was my very best friend and it broke my heart. Then, I got to a place where I was so hurt, I was no longer being an example, I was cursing, acting wordly--I'd do anything to take those things back.
Recently, I got back in touch with him, sending him a card saying, "I'm praying for you." No begging him back, nothing but a couple verses and I'm praying for you. He responded, but he has not changed, he wasn't very remorseful, and he is still lost. I pray for him every day though, because the Lord put him on my heart. My greatest desire would be that he would be saved and become a faithful servant of the Lord.
My greatest advice, if you can keep your christian integrity, then continue to witness to her, pray the Lord would give you an open door with her, and ask for others to come into her life. She may be close, because she is showing anger. Don't faint! However, if it will compromise your faith, then back off from the friendship--you don't want to be on the other side of a broken relationship. My problem was that I wanted to have him more than anything--more than his salvation (which I'm not accusing you of, just explaining) and as a result, I lost everything. My heart still aches and I wish I had more I could say to him. The only thing that I've been doing now has been sending him my email devotions. I pray that he sees them.
I'm not saying she's not the one--we don't know that. I know of a tremendous pastor who did lead his wife to the Lord shortly before they became engaged and married. But, he waited on the Lord and led her--I didn't do that. So, in short, don't enter into a relationship--which seems like you have down, although it's hard when you're in love with someone. My ex went from one girl to the next, because that's what he tries to fill his soul with rather than God. But, I would pray for your protection, and just be diligent. The Lord will reward that and will work in her life. Just be very careful.
Hope this helps. I will pray for your friend to be saved. Would you pray for Jared? I want him to be saved so much and to be a faithful servant of the Lord. Just be careful and may the Lord bless you.
