Reading all the posted messages I can say I can relate to some stories. I'm also currently experiencing a troubled marriage. I've been married for 6yrs now but have no kids yet. Our first year of marriage was just one of our best moments being a couple until my husband met this flirty girl from his previous job. I have never seen it coming...

Our relationship started to get rough on the second year of our marriage. I was completely clueless about the cause of the problem. All I knew then was we were fighting quite more often because he always came home very late with no valid reason and that he even had to go out 7days a week having to work as an excuse. In short we lost the time for each other. I had to do groceries and go to church on Sundays alone. He also started to forget important days of our lives like birthdays and anniversaries. I had to attend to some occasions with our friends alone bringing all the excuses why he cannot join. It hurt me so much that I saw myself always nagging at him. I tried to talk to him heart to heart hoping he would open up but this approach didn't work. I tried to get advices from our dear friends and they advised me to stop nagging and just continue to be a good wife to
him which I did but in spite of him seeing all my efforts our situation got even worst. One day he came home and told me he wanted a separation because he was not happy with me anymore. Those words all came to me like a lightning that made me paralyzed for few minutes. Later on I just found myself begging him not to leave me. He said he already made up his mind. I asked him what have I done to make him unhappy but he said nothing it's just he wanted to be alone. I asked if there was a third party or if he has fallen out of love because of someone else but he denied it. I fainted as if I was to die that time. Maybe out of pity he took back his words he said ok he will stay.

After that I thought things will get better between us but it was the opposite. He resigned from his job and moved to another which is too far from our place. He used this as an excuse to stay with his parents during workday and just come home on weekends. I never suspected that he had already having an affair for couple of years already until one day he called me he is not coming home anymore. I immediately rushed to my inlaws house only to find out that my husband had told them a lot of negative things about me to get rid of me. I felt I was not welcomed at their home and it hurt so much. It was really a heart breaking moment for me.

In summary I and my husband separated for 1yr but that didn't stop me from finding out the real reason why he had left me....I prayed so hard for guidance and strength. My entire family and friends were also there to back me up while I'm going thru this battle. Until finally God intervened...one at a time all the information that I needed just came in flowing. When I had enough information I went back to my inlaws and showed them the real reason for my husband's behavior. My mother inlaw could not believe it because he had trusted his soon too much. But with Gods grace she did not consent to his son's affair. She talked to the other woman and demanded her to stay away from our lives. The rest was history...my husband went back to our home without any promise that he would change and I also didn't feel that he had been sorry about what he did. In spite of that I accepted him hoping he would change to be the same man that I married. Our life went on still with a lot of struggles but i didn't give up. Until this year I found out he is having an affair again. This time he becomes more stubborn and lack respect to me. I cannot even look at his cellphone otherwise he will become violent. I tried to seek help again from his mom but my husband just kept on lying.

Now I don't know what to do. I'm emotionally and mentally stressed. Seems like my prayers are not working anymore. My husband is not open to any counseling. Still very hard to convince him to go to church with me. And he is more vocal about leaving me and filing for annulment. I know he is lost spiritually that's why i am not sure if divorce/annulment is the answer to our problems
now. I love him and if given the chance I want to keep our marriage and fight for it. Pls pray for me and pls share me your thoughts on this. Thank you

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Reading all the posted messages I can say I can relate to some stories. I'm also currently experiencing a troubled marriage. I've been married for 6yrs now but have no kids yet. Our first year of marriage was just one of our best moments being a couple until my husband met this flirty girl from his previous job. I have never seen it coming...

Our relationship started to get rough on the second year of our marriage. I was completely clueless about the cause of the problem. All I knew then was we were fighting quite more often because he always came home very late with no valid reason and that he even had to go out 7days a week having to work as an excuse. In short we lost the time for each other. I had to do groceries and go to church on Sundays alone. He also started to forget important days of our lives like birthdays and anniversaries. I had to attend to some occasions with our friends alone bringing all the excuses why he cannot join. It hurt me so much that I saw myself always nagging at him. I tried to talk to him heart to heart hoping he would open up but this approach didn't work. I tried to get advices from our dear friends and they advised me to stop nagging and just continue to be a good wife to
him which I did but in spite of him seeing all my efforts our situation got even worst. One day he came home and told me he wanted a separation because he was not happy with me anymore. Those words all came to me like a lightning that made me paralyzed for few minutes. Later on I just found myself begging him not to leave me. He said he already made up his mind. I asked him what have I done to make him unhappy but he said nothing it's just he wanted to be alone. I asked if there was a third party or if he has fallen out of love because of someone else but he denied it. I fainted as if I was to die that time. Maybe out of pity he took back his words he said ok he will stay.

After that I thought things will get better between us but it was the opposite. He resigned from his job and moved to another which is too far from our place. He used this as an excuse to stay with his parents during workday and just come home on weekends. I never suspected that he had already having an affair for couple of years already until one day he called me he is not coming home anymore. I immediately rushed to my inlaws house only to find out that my husband had told them a lot of negative things about me to get rid of me. I felt I was not welcomed at their home and it hurt so much. It was really a heart breaking moment for me.

In summary I and my husband separated for 1yr but that didn't stop me from finding out the real reason why he had left me....I prayed so hard for guidance and strength. My entire family and friends were also there to back me up while I'm going thru this battle. Until finally God intervened...one at a time all the information that I needed just came in flowing. When I had enough information I went back to my inlaws and showed them the real reason for my husband's behavior. My mother inlaw could not believe it because he had trusted his soon too much. But with Gods grace she did not consent to his son's affair. She talked to the other woman and demanded her to stay away from our lives. The rest was history...my husband went back to our home without any promise that he would change and I also didn't feel that he had been sorry about what he did. In spite of that I accepted him hoping he would change to be the same man that I married. Our life went on still with a lot of struggles but i didn't give up. Until this year I found out he is having an affair again. This time he becomes more stubborn and lack respect to me. I cannot even look at his cellphone otherwise he will become violent. I tried to seek help again from his mom but my husband just kept on lying.

Now I don't know what to do. I'm emotionally and mentally stressed. Seems like my prayers are not working anymore. My husband is not open to any counseling. Still very hard to convince him to go to church with me. And he is more vocal about leaving me and filing for annulment. I know he is lost spiritually that's why i am not sure if divorce/annulment is the answer to our problems
now. I love him and if given the chance I want to keep our marriage and fight for it. Pls pray for me and pls share me your thoughts on this. Thank you